halaluyaa Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 My story is very basic. My ex broke up with me 10 weeks ago and broke my heart. Didnt give a crap about me. Anyway, at our last talk whîch was 3 weeks ago she told me to get out of her life. I kept that promise and havent contacted for 3.5 weeks and still keeping it. Have no urge to call or text her. Nothing. Problem is i know even if she crawl back i wont want her back. I feel nothing emotionally. I am not in love or anything. My problem is i miss having sex with her. It was so good and she was only 19 years old so fresh so sexy. She is now in germany and amsterdam for 2 weeks. All my friends tell me that she will experience something there. Why do i still care? She is not mine. She doesnt want me anyway. How do i get rid of these feelings? I dont want to think about her. I just want to forget and totally move on. Why is it so hard? I was in another city 2 weeks ago and met lots of girls, had so much fun and didnt even think about her a sec. Now i am back to my city and feels come back. There should be a way to get rid of these totally. Please help me and i promise i will follow every advice you give. I give my word because i am really sick of it and want it gone.
JDPT Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 I used to have the same issue and always being concerned with who my ex was screwing now. I can tell you this, that in time you will subdue those thoughts. It will be a constant battle I the meantime, reroute your thoughts, this is imperative. Your mind will play tricks on you to the point that you will picture your ex doing the exact same things she did with you in intimacy but this time with someone else, believe me, I know how painful those thoughts are. Again, reroute your thoughts and tell yourself that it no longer matter what she does in her private time. Reality is that it really does not matter as you two are no longer together. The worst thing you can do is absolutely nothing about this, you need to address it just as if you were addressing a cold. 1
Author halaluyaa Posted August 12, 2013 Author Posted August 12, 2013 I used to have the same issue and always being concerned with who my ex was screwing now. I can tell you this, that in time you will subdue those thoughts. It will be a constant battle I the meantime, reroute your thoughts, this is imperative. Your mind will play tricks on you to the point that you will picture your ex doing the exact same things she did with you in intimacy but this time with someone else, believe me, I know how painful those thoughts are. Again, reroute your thoughts and tell yourself that it no longer matter what she does in her private time. Reality is that it really does not matter as you two are no longer together. The worst thing you can do is absolutely nothing about this, you need to address it just as if you were addressing a cold. Thank you for the reply. How and where do you reroute your thoughts? Because it is very difficult. When the thought comes ît just doesnt go. 1
JDPT Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 Reroute to thinking about now, where you stand, what you are doing and what you plan on doing in the future to climb out of the hole. Think about all the positives you have going for yourself, we often neglect those or take them for granted. Deviate to a place where you were happy, when she didn't exist. I can honestly say that prior to meeting my ex I was a happy and upbeat guy, now not so much but I'm working towards being a better man. Make this work in your favor taking it as a learning experience without attaching emotions to it. Be very matter of fact about what occured and even view it as a business transaction, you win some and then you lose some its life and nothing stagnates. You need to propel yourself and be your own "cheering squad" this is what someone told me and it works. As crazy as it may sound, those moments that you feel alone and in pain talk to yourself and tell yourself that you will come out of this a new and improved man. 1
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