gwennebe Posted November 5, 2004 Posted November 5, 2004 So I met this guy through a friend of mine and in the past two or so months we've been getting to know each other better. We all belong to a club together. The guy has shown many signs that he is interested in me. From flat out saying I want to hook up with her in front of me to another friend, calling me at least once a week (drunk of course) and kissing me on the cheek and telling me I look nice. Last week one of our other mutual friends said that He thinks "guy" likes me and if I like him I should tell him. So I take his advice and call "guy" up and tell him I'm interested in him. So he's speechless and tells me he's extremely flattered and we should get together and have dinner sometime but not this week because he's working open to close every night. I figure ok that sounds alright. So I ran into the first mutual friend tonight and we are making small talk and he mentions he got invited by "guy" to go out tonight since he is off tomorrow. Don't you guys think if he really really liked me he'd have called within 4 days since I told him this and possibly thought to hang out with me tonight? Now I am wondering if I just made a complete fool of myself!!!!!!!!!!! Did I scare him off by telling him im interested or something? I don't think I came off looking to eager as he knows I am currently dating a few people but he also knows I'm not too interested in these people. I swear I'm about to give up. Nothing seems to be going right. Maybe if I just give the heck up mr. wonderful will fall at my feet. hmmm.... or maybe i'm looking into this too much and I guess my only choice is to see if he trys to get together sometime. I'm nervous because I have to see him at the end of this week.
kellydontwanttasleep Posted November 5, 2004 Posted November 5, 2004 don't worry stay relaxed, guys are big dumb animals. just be yourself and f*** what other people think about it.
Author gwennebe Posted November 5, 2004 Author Posted November 5, 2004 LOL. Well isn't that the dang truth. At least one good thing lately, all this stupid bad luck dating is making me much more stronger. I talked to an old guy friend last night to get some insight and he basically thinks the guy likes me but is probably very afraid of getting hurt by me. I just don't care anymore. I'm not bothering putting effort into anything that has to do with the male species anymore.
krbshappy71 Posted November 5, 2004 Posted November 5, 2004 From flat out saying I want to hook up with her in front of me to another friend, calling me at least once a week (drunk of course) and kissing me on the cheek and telling me I look nice. This is appealing to you? Him calling you while drunk? Telling other people he wants to hook up but not making the necessary effort to do so? Up your standards my dear. When the right guy comes along HE will call YOU, none of this "does he like me?" stuff. A great book to read since it sounds like you are already learning a lot from the dating game: Mars and Venus Dating It'll help you find Mr. Right, not Mr. I think he likes me so I'll date him. Have fun, dating is too fun to put up with junk.
snilljente Posted November 13, 2004 Posted November 13, 2004 "I'm not bothering putting effort into anything that has to do with the male species anymore." YOU AND ME BOTH....I GIVE UP...DONE!!!
BurningBright Posted November 13, 2004 Posted November 13, 2004 "I'm not bothering putting effort into anything that has to do with the male species anymore." YOU AND ME BOTH....I GIVE UP...DONE!!! lol... any bets on how long this will last? Men are like blenders... women always need one, but aren't quite sure why. I hope everything works out and Good luck! ~BurningBright
Author gwennebe Posted November 18, 2004 Author Posted November 18, 2004 I am so angry and dissapointed in myself. We ended up hanging out two times last weekend and we "hooked up" and now I haven't heard from him. Why do I keep doing this to myself? I should have known better by now but I of course didn't think things through and gave him the benefit of the doubt and I was wrong. I have been sick all week just thinking about it. I have to see him this weekend at the club we are involved in unless I want to not go anymore and I am not letting some guy do that to me. I have a right to be there as much as he does. The only thing that worries me is getting a reputation which isn't fair because it's such a double standard with guys. Girls just are not suppossed to have casual sex but guys can. Regardless what can I do in the future to get myself out of this dangerous rut I'm in with trusting people too soon? I'm seriously thinking of going to therapy over it I am that scared. I think I am having self esteem issues. I don't think I am thinking highly enough of myself. Anyone know any good self help books that targets this kind of problem with oneself? Thanks for listening!
Withnail Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 Originally posted by BurningBright lol... any bets on how long this will last? Men are like blenders... women always need one, but aren't quite sure why. I hope everything works out and Good luck! ~BurningBright lol good one. Seriously though, yous women give us too much credit, we are really quite simple creatures.
snilljente Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 If you guys are that simple, I would love your input about my post "what is he trying to tell me?"...he sure doesn't seem simple
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