should i dump online girlfriend because she wont come see me? Date other peeps?

[iCobbleStoned]

This is gonna be kinda long so bear with me.

 

I met this girl online when i was 14 and she was 15. She said she lived in florida. We talked for a few months. Never exchanged pics or numbers. One day she told me she really liked me so she had to tell the truth. She was irish and lived in ireland. She sent me a pic and she was gorgeous. Shes a very beautiful girl. But at the time i was fat and ugly. Almost 390 pounds. But she convinced me to send her a pic. She didnt care about my weight she kept talking to me daily.

 

We got really close over that summer. She would buy phone cards and go for walks just so she could call me everyday. Our conversations started turning somewhat sexual and we ended up "dating" if you can call it that.

 

Over the years i lost a lot of weight and went from being the fat kid to being the cool kid. Me and her still talked but not as much because i had real life girls. Even though she knew i was with other girls she still didnt mess with other guys. Shes a virgin till this day and its NOT cuz shes ugly. Trust me ive seen every inch of her on skype she can get guys but shes actually saving herself for me.

 

Then last year i went to jail for trafficking narcotics. I was in a federal detention facility had no way to contact her but she was THE ONLY girl i thought about. For the full 6 months. I dumped all my other girlfriends and ive only slept with two girls since i got out and both times i was thinking about her.

 

After i got out she came to america on a family trip. But she couldnt see me because she was on a buddy system with her older sister and they never left each others sight. When she got back to irelansld she told me she would save for a year, and if i could get a place she would come stay with me. We realize we might not get a long in real life but we wanted to try.

 

Well last week she tells me that her family is coming on another trip to america and all her money is going towards that. She told her mom she wanted to stay but her mom said no. And we cant meet when she comes this time either because of the buddy systen.

 

She says she is gonna try to become an airline hostest and she'll be able to fly here all the time to see me. And in a few years she will make the move.

 

But i feel like none of this is ever gonna happen. We are both adults and she really doesny need her parents permission. I mean even if i could just meet her i would be happy. I know shes real. Ive seen her on skype. She gave me her facebook password. She even let me borrow 4000 dollars when i got outta jail.

 

Shes been with me for 6 long years. Through all my ups and downs. Through my weight loss. She cried with me every night when my mom kicked me out. She sent me christmas gifts all the way from ireland when i was living in an abandoned house. I love her. But im not a kid anymore and idk how much longer i can do this online thing. Im thinking about dunpin her but idk how i would live without her. We talk everyday religiously shes my bff. what would you do in my position?

[iCobbleStoned]

And money isnt an issue. I would go stay in ireland but im on federal parole so that wont work. I have a house and i can pay her way to america if need be. But she still wont come because her mom feels shes not old enough.

[FitChick]

Her parents don't want her dating an ex-con. There are plenty of local women for you to meet.

[darkmoon]

get a place, become established and try again, but really, when a man asks me to visit them, it usually indicates an anticipated sexual set-up and/or a man who ought to be doing some running not none, sorry to be blunt, but now I know what I know about being asked to "visit" a man, they would all get my refusal too