Emilia Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Update - I chose another place, and we are meeting there. However he did have the nerve to say that he didn't think that was in the middle! With an "lol" after it, but still - he did say it. He was joking
Author green_tea Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 In case anyone is wondering how the date went...it didn't end up happening due to this: Wellington shaken by severe earthquake - National - NZ Herald News
Emilia Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 In case anyone is wondering how the date went...it didn't end up happening due to this: Wellington shaken by severe earthquake - National - NZ Herald News Very sorry to hear that, didn't realise it happened! Is it worse than the Christchurch earth quake was?
Author green_tea Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 Thanks Emilia, it just happened this afternoon, a couple of hours before I was supposed to meet him! It's not as bad as Christchurch, no major damage. But loads of aftershocks so we are all on edge 1
Emilia Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Thanks Emilia, it just happened this afternoon, a couple of hours before I was supposed to meet him! It's not as bad as Christchurch, no major damage. But loads of aftershocks so we are all on edge I'm very sorry, I know it's really stressful, I've been to NZ a couple of times and experienced a very mild earthquake, nothing like this though. I hope the aftershocks go quickly. 1
PlumPrincess Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Thanks, yes I think I will suggest somewhere else. I was tossing up whether to cancel based on this, or to suggest somewhere right by my work - but that's kind of being passive aggressive and that's not me. I may as well give him a chance. I would say, "Sorry, but that is not in the middle and I don't really want to walk that far..." Ok, I think he is not worth it. Let's assume he has a reason to stay close to where he is working (best restaurant in the city, really grueling time schedule, but would love to meet you nonetheless, broken leg, etc.), but then he would explain it, because he wouldn't want to be rude and ignore your request, a quite reasonable request. This negotiating part is one of the basics that you learn with your friends. If people have this sense of entitlement right from the beginning, it's not going to get better. He's either very stupid, doesn't care at all or he's testing you how far he can go. Whatever it is, it's not appealing.
PlumPrincess Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 In case anyone is wondering how the date went...it didn't end up happening due to this: Wellington shaken by severe earthquake - National - NZ Herald News Sorry to hear about that!
phineas Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I would say, "Sorry, but that is not in the middle and I don't really want to walk that far..." Ok, I think he is not worth it. Let's assume he has a reason to stay close to where he is working (best restaurant in the city, really grueling time schedule, but would love to meet you nonetheless, broken leg, etc.), but then he would explain it, because he wouldn't want to be rude and ignore your request, a quite reasonable request. This negotiating part is one of the basics that you learn with your friends. If people have this sense of entitlement right from the beginning, it's not going to get better. He's either very stupid, doesn't care at all or he's testing you how far he can go. Whatever it is, it's not appealing. And OP doesn't have a sense of entitlement at all herself? Sounds like they were made for each other.
phineas Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Posing a location closer to you is selfish, and might kill whatever interest she did have, however strong. Why hedge your bet like that? Be a gentleman and suggest a place that's at least in the middle, preferably closer to her. If you think she's not "sufficiently interested" to MEET you, don't ask her out or cancel. Men lead, women follow. Gotta keep the pimp hand strong when trolling for ho's on plenty of flakes.
PlumPrincess Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 And OP doesn't have a sense of entitlement at all herself? Sounds like they were made for each other. You mean, because she wanted to meet in the middle, something equidistant to each other? Yeah, what a biiitch!
phineas Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 You mean, because she wanted to meet in the middle, something equidistant to each other? Yeah, what a biiitch! not because she wanted to meet in the middle. But because of WHY she wanted to meet in the middle. It wasn't the walking (that was just an excuse) It was because she believed she shouldn't be inconvenienced in such a way. I mean honestly, i've driven 40 mins to meet a woman in her city because she suggested a cool place that was there. Not once have I ever thought "that bitch, she just wants to make me drive to her!" OP is high maint. & probably a drama queen to boot. I mean honestly who creates a thread on a relationship forum over this kind of thing? Next thread she makes: "Hey LS, we met but he didn't shave at work before, is that a sign of disrespect on his part?"
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