DayumQuitPlayin Posted November 4, 2004 Posted November 4, 2004 I have alot of friends. Some of them know something about me that most people don't know. I'm bi-sexual.. and I've told some of them about it. Its been a good while that I told. I remember the first time I've ever told anyone.. It was real weird. I thought that I'd never tell anyone for my whole life.. but I did tell. I remember when I told my best male friend. I chocked on the words.. I couldn't just bring myself to say it.. but when I did.. there was silence.. then he said that it was cool with him. I still felt weird.. really weird.. since he looks up to me sometimes. He then asked me some questions about that lifestyle that made me laugh.. because I'm new to that lifestyle anyways. Well.. this is it: I have to female friends that know about it. I feel real comfortable with them knowing it.. that sometimes I play around with them. Anyway.. this is what really pisses me off. Its whenever they would tell OTHER people that I am. I mean.. WTF??? They would sometimes say: Well.. you basically told them that you're that way. I'm like how??? Just because I play around and say 'I love you' to some dude (((( PLAYING AROUND OFCOURSE )))) .. You gotta know me.. and know my personality. Anyways though.. Yea.. they be telling people that ****.. and it really pisses me off. I mean.. If I wanted to walk around the world with a Sign that read: I'm BI ...I would do it.. but I don't. Sometimes I feel as if it were a mistake telling them.. knowing how they sometimes 'slip' and say something.. or make 'assumptions' ..but it really makes me mad. It happened TWICE with these two guys. She told this one guy that I'm interested in other guys because.. I almost got into a fight with him.. about her.. and he said that I'm "cock blocking" him.. that's why I wanted to beat his ass.. when it has nothing to do with that.. I said "How would I be cock-blocking if I'm not interested in females" ...but ofcourse I didn't say it to him.. he was on the phone with one of my friends.. and so she assumed that since I said that ( to her and my other friend in the room ) ..that it was ok to tell him. Dayum yo! ..then my other friend.. going to tell this guy that I don't know.. that I like guys.. because he was getting jealous of me being with her all the time.. we're only friends.. I'm not interested in them like that.. because I have a certain preference. Anyways.. she felt that by telling him that.. that he will be 'ok' with me being around her.. WTF ...**** I've known her way longer than him.. they just practically met.. anyways.. I just thought I'd vent out some of this frustration.. that's all Any comments welcomed
Naive Posted November 5, 2004 Posted November 5, 2004 Why don't you tell your friends that you feel like it's not their place to tell anyone what your sexual preference is. If they really need to know you should be the only one to tell them. Not that it's shameful, but it is something personal! Let 'em know how you feel, I'm sure they'll understand
morrigan Posted November 5, 2004 Posted November 5, 2004 Your sexual preferences are primarily your business--why are your friends bringing it up to other people? If you're from a pretty conservative area like I am, people will have problems/be nasty to someone who is either homosexual or bisexual. It's not fair, and it's stupid, but that is how closed minded people react to homosexuality. Your friends don't have the need to notify other people what your sexual preferences are. Make it clear that while you are open with select people about your bisexuality, you don't necessarily want it broadcasted to every living soul that knows you. Ask them how they would feel if their sexual preferences or the names of people they've slept with were yelled all around town by someone else.
Author DayumQuitPlayin Posted November 5, 2004 Author Posted November 5, 2004 Yea, I've brought it up to them. The first one was really sorry.. she said that it was a mistake. The other one.. doesn't seem to care much.. she just laughed it up. And its not the first time that she told too. One time.. I found out that she told her grandma.. and I felt soooo so so stupid being in her house. Her grandma asked to speak to her outside her room. I heard my friend say something through the door.. what it was.. I can't remember.. but I remember it being something awkward. Then she came back in.. and I asked what happened. She told me that her grandma doesn't want me to use their toilet.. for fear that I may contaminate it.. and that people like me carry diseases... I felt really ashamed..and I felt as if I should be a Bubble-boy or something. Yea.. she's done this before.. and its pisses me off. She's just too immature..to understand how sincere I am about it. I'll bring it back up to her attention again.. and see her reaction. Hopefully she'll understand me.
Naive Posted November 5, 2004 Posted November 5, 2004 Now you know that you can't trust her. If she was so nonchalant about it maybe she's not a good friend like you thought.
Author DayumQuitPlayin Posted November 6, 2004 Author Posted November 6, 2004 Yea, but she's still my Khristy.. that's how she is.. even though it Pisses me off! We have a funny kinda relationship.. well we all do. But that is a sensitive subject for me. Anyways.. thanx fa tha comments
JackieQ Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 Yep, does sound frustrating. You trusted her with something and she didn't keep that trust. But, I do know what you mean about her still being your friend. I've got a friend who does stuff I don't always like...Its just the way she is. We've been friends too long for me to give up that. But, I've learned the hard way that there are certain parts of me she can't or won't understand and, for those, I need to find someone else to listen. Anyway, it's not an answer, just a comment. For some reason, what you said made me feel for your situation. I'm not bi or gay, but I do know what it's like to struggle with accepting parts of who I am. Jackie
Author DayumQuitPlayin Posted November 9, 2004 Author Posted November 9, 2004 Yea, you're right. As of now, I'm not talking to them. They both did something I didn't like recently.. so Ima just leave them alone, let them do their own thing. I'll build a new crew LoL
Naive Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 Originally posted by DayumQuitPlayin Yea, you're right. As of now, I'm not talking to them. They both did something I didn't like recently.. so Ima just leave them alone, let them do their own thing. I'll build a new crew LoL It's just about making them understand that they have to ask you first.
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