missscotts Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 Me an my ex split 2months ago because of constant arguing I was always extremely moody and couldn't work out why..I recently thought i might have depression or something and went to the drs she did a blood test and turns out i have pernicious anaemia and am now about to start monthly injections.. I feel more sad that this is something that could have prevented the ruin of my relationship? I don't know what to do i dont think telling him would do any difference but im still so heartbroken and miss him so much. Whats your advice??
reddragon588 Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 No matter what any dumper tells you, there are no one-sided breakups. Just like it takes two for a relationship to work, it takes two for it to end. Your ex contributed to the end of the relationship as well. Focus on what you can learn from and improve on from your relationship, but don't feel that that was the sole cause of the break. I'm glad to hear your health is doing better too!
flitzanu Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 i'm sorry, but what does a physiological illness have to do with ruining the relationship?
2sunny Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 You're blaming your crappy behavior on that? I've had it - it never CAUSED me to act mean to others - it mainly made me feel exhausted. Take your vitamin dosage - and own your bad behavior as your actions. Try to do different actions moving forward = no more bad behavior. Just play nice in the sand box.
Author missscotts Posted August 12, 2013 Author Posted August 12, 2013 because in a lot of people it causes symptoms of depression, mood swings, suicidal ideation, and personality changes aswell as exhaustion. as with any illness people get different symptoms. but thanks for the support guys
2sunny Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 because in a lot of people it causes symptoms of depression, mood swings, suicidal ideation, and personality changes aswell as exhaustion. as with any illness people get different symptoms. but thanks for the support guys So are you saying that now that your taking your vitamins - you are assured you will never act like that old behavior ever again?
2sunny Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 You could be already taking a daily vitamin. No need to wait for a shot. Buy them at any drug store. After taking them for a month - do blood work up again to see if the levels are at a normal range. Take slow release or time released if possible.
all_cats_rgray Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 This seems like another post on. Is it okay for a ex to leave because I'm depressed. ... . Uh. I would like to answer this question. Once and for all so we can end this debate. The answer is ... It depends. ONE_____Dumpee. Weather the person with the depression is willing to change/ can change/ and does change. (Depression is treatable) If this is a NO. Then the relationship is over. TWO____ Dumper. If above is do able. The dumper must be maturate/ supportive/ and understanding. AND willing to DEAL with real life. I don't want to put a bummer on everyones fairy tail. BUT if you didn't know this LIFE IS HARD. And if you not willing to TALK to your partner. And help them through a hard time. You will be living in a land where unicorns fart out relationships that don't involve hard work. I'm not saying your have to SAVE this person. I'm saying when you hit a bump in the road. If you **** off, you have to re think how you look at others. It's hard I know, I wish I had a perfect boyfriend/girlfriend too...One day when they create those robot androids I requested.
2sunny Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 I need help my ex broke up with me 2months ago because of some of my immature behaviour never having dealt with insecurities i didn't trust him and was nagging and picking fights and incapable of gaining insight into how I was behaving it got too much for him.I know he didn't spend a lot of time thinking about breaking up with me because he had only moved in with me a month before hand and he had really pushed to move in I had been reluctant because i worried it might make our issues worse which it did. After we split up I did everything wrong begging him to give me another chance telling him I would change and ofcourse it didn't work. So for the past month i have been working really hard on myself I have been getting myself back and building my self esteem something which has always been low. Iv realised how I relied on him for my entire happiness instead of being responsible for my own. Anyway so its been a full 3 weeks of no contact now but I am going to see him at the airport a trip we had planned together which we are both still going but seperately now. How should i act? I want to give myself the best chance for him to see the progress i've made? I do understand its a long shot and he has probably moved on but he was such a wonderful guy and i am still very very much in love with him? Any advice would be really appreciated!? This is why your R ended. Your behavior - not described as depression in your prior thread.
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