Kelly25_76 Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 Text messages I'm new here didn't know where to go for advice. My husband works away come home every third wk. lately when he is home I have been noticing a number on his call log that has had messages sent to it. I confronted him about the deleted messages and he was shocked to know I could still see he had sent messages. He's made up three different excuses on who the woman is he was txting. First it was someone he contacted for work the next she is married and just met then last but not least she's an old friend from School. He stays in camp while away work as does the woman he's txting. I went they emails he had had sent out and there was one there saying from Him they Should get together have dinner catch up and he gave her hi room number and cell phone number. I really don't know what to think of all of this
SidLyon Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 Text messages I'm new here didn't know where to go for advice. My husband works away come home every third wk. lately when he is home I have been noticing a number on his call log that has had messages sent to it. I confronted him about the deleted messages and he was shocked to know I could still see he had sent messages. He's made up three different excuses on who the woman is he was txting. First it was someone he contacted for work the next she is married and just met then last but not least she's an old friend from School. He stays in camp while away work as does the woman he's txting. I went they emails he had had sent out and there was one there saying from Him they Should get together have dinner catch up and he gave her hi room number and cell phone number. I really don't know what to think of all of this I'm sorry - this is not good. He has already lied to you about this woman assuming his 3 explanations cannot all be true. My guess is he's already in an affair or is trying to initiate one with her. It sounds like a d-day might be in your future. You can either go quiet and investigate further, ignore it and hope everything will be alright, confront him that you know he is lying, and risk further lies (especially ones that blame you for being suspicious) and that he hides his activities more. You could initiate a discussion on the state of your marriage etc. It depends on what sort of a person you are, would you want to work it out with him if he was cheating, would you immediately separate, do you want an honest intimate relationship etc? These are all things to think about and no final decision needs to be made immediately. If it were me I'd take the confrontation route, but many others have success with further investigations.
Author Kelly25_76 Posted August 12, 2013 Author Posted August 12, 2013 I have talked to him about it he said that they are just friends and he will nolonger have contact with her but something tells me that is a lie. He's lied before about something like this. He even went to the route of putting a female under a male man so I wouldn't think Anythinf of it. The only way I found out was a message came in saying I miss u and can't wait to see you. So yes I do have a bit of a trust issue when it come to this. And I'm confused as in why a married man would tell another woman his room number. So lost here and don't know what to do. It's driving me nuts. He leaves again tomorrow for two wks to go back to work and she works there also. He has two contact numbers on his phone for her I want to delete them but what the use if she contacts him he will just get them back and put the number under someone else's name
Thegameoflife Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 If he has an iPhone, deleted messages can be recovered. Guys who work in camps make good money but also have this reputation. 2 weeks of bored, horny, and lonely, has that affect.
Author Kelly25_76 Posted August 12, 2013 Author Posted August 12, 2013 He does not have an iPhone. The phone he has logs everyone one he txt and talks to in his call history which he has yet to figure out. That's how I knew he Was txting the woman from work then I got curious and got into his emails
dichotomy Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 You have her phone number? or email address? from his phone records From a phone or email you can find an exact name. Best to know who this is. Does he use yoru home computer at all?
Author Kelly25_76 Posted August 12, 2013 Author Posted August 12, 2013 I know her name I have both her numbers saved as well as her email address. I can't a get access to his phone bill I think he must have it sent electronically I can't find it anywhere in his email account. Am I over reacting? I'm stressed out thinking about it. He has done this before and claimed nothing happened he stopped contact with the other girl when I took his phone deleted all contacts changed the number and gave it to my daughter.
crepesuzette Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Kelly25, I am sorry, you need to get some clarity away from your BS. I am a FWS, I have been in R for 4 years. When I was in my A the MOM's BW found his cellphone records and saw with her own eyes the amount of texts between us, he made some excuse and then he had the nerve to take over the account, change the PW so she no longer had access. AND SHE PUT UP WITH IT AND LET HIM DO IT!!!...And when that didn't work and he wouldn't cut me out of their lives (our families were friends) even though she asked him to. She told me at that point that he chose his "friendship" with me over his M. She still didn't do anything. Don't be pushed around and tricked by your BH. He is up to something and none of it is good. Please protect yourself from him, he is definitely lying to you. You know it, trust yourself. Wishing you strength.
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