Blue-Tiger Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 (edited) Long time lurker, first time poster! The ex and I dated non-officially for a 3-4 months but we were going too fast on the intimate side of things and I freaked out. He said he was interested in seeing where this was headed, I on the other hand, asked for things to slow down, especially since I wasn't sure if we were official. Since then he started to pull a cold fade, so I broke it off with him and we agreed to remain friends. While we made out a few times we never had sex and I told him I wouldn't either unless I was engaged/married (I'm a virgin from a very conservative community that he is a part of as well). I heard he started to date another chick very soon after we ended things and I haven't heard from him for nearly 6-8 months. Well, early this year he texted a joke about how we stopped talking to each other as soon as we stopped making out. Since then he would find an excuse to message me roughly once a month, either mentioning he misses me, or wants to hang out, or sees something that reminds him of me and he just had to tell me. My responses were usually absent-minded but happy, I never initiated but I was always the one that ended the convos. I would agree to hang out (with friends involved) but I never set a solid date despite his nudging. So my question is this: he knows I am not going to sleep with him so it can't just be a booty call, can it? While he asked to meet up I have been very busy and we haven't seen each other yet except when him and his friends came to my party 2 weeks after we broke up (I am good friends with his group but I wasn't expecting him to attend.) I am still not sure if I want to see him because I am wary of his intentions, but damn, its been nearly 6 months of him testing my waters! So can anyone help with some insight on his behavior? Thanks! Edited August 11, 2013 by Blue-Tiger
flitzanu Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 just because you say you aren't going to have sex with him doesn't mean he won't continue to try. 1
coltsfan1 Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 just because you say you aren't going to have sex with him doesn't mean he won't continue to try. Exactly what I thought.... This is an easy answer, to get laid. He was a fling and hopes that it will continue.
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