Was I a rebound or is there hope?

[LetItFlow]

So here is my story it is fairly long. I am a lesbian by the way so the normal advice may not apply! So I met a girl and we had been talking for months. She was hot and cold but I didnt know her well so I assumed she was just playing hard to get. She told me she had no baggage. Well things picked up, we had been going on dates and she ended up making a move on me. Then one wknd she invited me on a getaway with her friends. I thought we had a pretty good time but some moments seemed awkward looking back on it. When we got back from the getaway she told me its not me its her and shes not looking to date we would be better friends. This is after telling me how amazing I am and how much she likes me on the wknd. I learn she has an ex and misses her. I wish her luck and move on. She contacts me a few days later looking for comfort cause her ex treated her like crap all weekend. I am there for her. We agree to be friends. Then her ex says if she finds out we are talking shes never gonna talk to her again and neither will her friends. After drama, she decides to keep being my friend. Time passes and we spend time together. She starts intiating more and telling me shes over her ex she had been for awhile. Anyway, lots more happened but a few weeks after we were seeing each other again and her telling me how happy I make her, and how im perfect and everything shes ever wanted but was blinded before, suddenly ignores me. When I finally got a hold of her she told me something is missing, i ask if this is about her ex she says no. We part ways I feel disrespected and misled after all I did for her. Three days later I am off her facebook and shes back with her ex. We had a good connection and her ex treated her so bad, played her with her ex gf, would yell and insult her, etc and cant offer her nearly what i can as far as security and stability, im set in my life and stable. Will she realize I was better for her and regret going back to her ex? Or do you think I was just there to boost her self esteem and a shoulder to cry on? She said shes not going to just forget me but she seems so happy now, like she didnt just lose a genuinely good person from her life.

[flitzanu]

So here is my story it is fairly long. I am a lesbian by the way so the normal advice may not apply! So I met a girl and we had been talking for months. She was hot and cold but I didnt know her well so I assumed she was just playing hard to get. She told me she had no baggage. Well things picked up, we had been going on dates and she ended up making a move on me. Then one wknd she invited me on a getaway with her friends. I thought we had a pretty good time but some moments seemed awkward looking back on it. When we got back from the getaway she told me its not me its her and shes not looking to date we would be better friends. This is after telling me how amazing I am and how much she likes me on the wknd. I learn she has an ex and misses her. I wish her luck and move on. She contacts me a few days later looking for comfort cause her ex treated her like crap all weekend. I am there for her. We agree to be friends. Then her ex says if she finds out we are talking shes never gonna talk to her again and neither will her friends. After drama, she decides to keep being my friend. Time passes and we spend time together. She starts intiating more and telling me shes over her ex she had been for awhile. Anyway, lots more happened but a few weeks after we were seeing each other again and her telling me how happy I make her, and how im perfect and everything shes ever wanted but was blinded before, suddenly ignores me. When I finally got a hold of her she told me something is missing, i ask if this is about her ex she says no. We part ways I feel disrespected and misled after all I did for her. Three days later I am off her facebook and shes back with her ex. We had a good connection and her ex treated her so bad, played her with her ex gf, would yell and insult her, etc and cant offer her nearly what i can as far as security and stability, im set in my life and stable. Will she realize I was better for her and regret going back to her ex? Or do you think I was just there to boost her self esteem and a shoulder to cry on? She said shes not going to just forget me but she seems so happy now, like she didnt just lose a genuinely good person from her life.

 

 

meh, pay attention to what the girl is saying. she's told you twice now that something is missing and it isn't working out. and then she keeps going back to her ex.

 

you're her emotional tampon when she's sad about her ex, and comes to you when she needs an ego boost, and then she makes up with her ex and drops you again.

 

so stop being a doormat.