Kozmo Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 so my ex blocked me on instagram and everywhere else. my friend told me congratulations. i didn't know what he was talking about and said we broke up.. turns out my ex gf posted a picture with her and a ring. everyone was saying congrads and he's a lucky guy.. they all know me and her a broken up. i'm a mess right now because this was so soon after leaving me. even if its a joke...wouldn't you say thats disrespectful to me? besides that i know she was seeing another dude while with me, because of all the comments..
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 so my ex blocked me on instagram and everywhere else. my friend told me congratulations. i didn't know what he was talking about and said we broke up.. turns out my ex gf posted a picture with her and a ring. everyone was saying congrads and he's a lucky guy.. they all know me and her a broken up. i'm a mess right now because this was so soon after leaving me. even if its a joke...wouldn't you say thats disrespectful to me? besides that i know she was seeing another dude while with me, because of all the comments.. Well, if you knew she was seeing another dude while with you, then maybe it doesn't come as shocking? I do agree though that sucks to hear man. No matter if she was with him before or whatever while being with you, still seems incredibly quick. With that said, what she does or doesn't do shouldn't matter at this point in the game. Trust me, easier said than done, but your focus should be on you and you only. Sounds like a cope out answer, but very true. PS LOVE (well loved) The Supersonics man. My favorite team since '91. One of the reasons I fell in love with Seattle and just recently moved here. 1
Author Kozmo Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 Well, if you knew she was seeing another dude while with you, then maybe it doesn't come as shocking? I do agree though that sucks to hear man. No matter if she was with him before or whatever while being with you, still seems incredibly quick. With that said, what she does or doesn't do shouldn't matter at this point in the game. Trust me, easier said than done, but your focus should be on you and you only. Sounds like a cope out answer, but very true. PS LOVE (well loved) The Supersonics man. My favorite team since '91. One of the reasons I fell in love with Seattle and just recently moved here. well she said there wasn't another dude, even last week when we talked. but now i know she was lying. yeah seattle is dope, i'm not from there, but i love visiting that place.
reddragon588 Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 She sounds like a waste of your time. Hopefully this helps you move on and realize you can't be in contact with her.
JDPT Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 You would agree that this girl was a joke all along yes? She was never worth it. Focus on moving forward and I would ask your "friends" to not even mention her name when they are around you.
Waynester Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 (edited) If it is a genuine engagement, & she has been seeing him behind your back for some time, then to her.. it may not feel quick. Sorry my friend, I'm sure the pain is awful & uploading a picture to a social media website is a hurtful thing to do. It may have been a deliberate act to make you feel bad, if so..its a mean, unnecessary thing to do! You have to move away from this, don't look at the picture, read comments..or feel the need to contact her! Isolate yourself from this..& her, NC!! Its hard, & it hurts right now but.. nc, plus surrounding yourself with good friends & family will help you deal with this. And in time.. you can get out there again. Its a big world, with lots of girls who are NOT ex's! Good luck. Edited August 11, 2013 by Waynester
Author Kozmo Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 If it is a genuine engagement, & she has been seeing him behind your back for some time, then to her.. it may not feel quick. Sorry my friend, I'm sure the pain is awful & uploading a picture to a social media website is a hurtful thing to do. It may have been a deliberate act to make you feel bad, if so..its a mean, unnecessary thing to do! You have to move away from this, don't look at the picture, read comments..or feel the need to contact her! Isolate yourself from this..& her, NC!! Its hard, & it hurts right now but.. nc, plus surrounding yourself with good friends & family will help you deal with this. And in time.. you can get out there again. Its a big world, with lots of girls who are NOT ex's! Good luck. thanks, its hard because i really don't have close friends to count on. my ex use to be my best friend and now i'm pretty much by myself... this forum is helping me though.
MrTurk Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 thanks, its hard because i really don't have close friends to count on. my ex use to be my best friend and now i'm pretty much by myself... this forum is helping me though. Her blocking you....and you stopping contact is the first step to getting past all the bullsh*t. Just move on and dont dwell on it.
Author Kozmo Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 Her blocking you....and you stopping contact is the first step to getting past all the bullsh*t. Just move on and dont dwell on it. i did, my friend is the one who told me.
TrblinMN Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 So sorry to hear you are going through this. I just recently found out myself that my ex gf got engaged 5 months after our breakup so I know how it feels. Do what you need to do to move on so if you come across that you are thinking about it, then think about it. The thoughts will last a long time at first but over time, it will go from 30 mins or so to 10 mins then about 1 min then eventually they will go away. Right now, I found out last week and I can already see the progress. I know there is no timeline but you have to give yourself that little time to sort it all out. Don't ignore it, just deal with it then go about your day.
reddragon588 Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 i did, my friend is the one who told me. Perhaps tell your friend that you would appreciate not hearing about your ex. In a nice way of course
Sallygirl Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 I'm really sorry to hear this. In the past, I dated a guy for 6 years. 4 months after we broke up, he was engaged. He married her within a year. At the time, it was pure devastation on my end. I thought I would never get over it and never love anyone as much as him ever again. Here I am a few years later writing on this forum because I am upset about ANOTHER guy. Who, by the way, I ended up loving much more than the original one. Time continues on, and the pain becomes less. By the way. The original guy and his wife just had a baby. When I heard about it, it didn't bother me at all. If you would have told me back then, that one day I would be indifferent to news like that, I would never have believed you. It really does show you the power of no contact. 2
Nicoleiia Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 You will get over it...as the time passes, you will start to forget about her and move on. But only if you are strict no contact. You should really ask your friends not to disclose any more details about her life so that you can just move on.
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