CsqMeqE Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Background: 5 year relationship. She ended it after an argument I caused basically saying "Well end it then". So she did. That was 9 months ago. I was becoming disenchanted with relationship and wasn't really trying anymore. I was very much in love with her, but it faded, became routine and I stopped showing her affection. She jumped immediately into another relationship. One that she told me several times she was very happy in. Said we would never be together again, etc. Yet, she would still cry about aspects of our relationship. Question: We send a few friendly texts a month. Maybe 4, which turns into a exchange back and forth for an hour or so. Several weeks ago she texted me on what would have been our anniversary. She pointed out she had been thinking about me and we had an hour long conversation. Because of the air of our talk, I didn't feel there was a malicious "just wanted to see if you're still hooked" type of motive behind it. There was sincerity and sadness behind what she was saying. Our texting has always been on a friendly level and never a relationship one. There was no contact for a couple of weeks, and for her to pick the day of what would have been our anniversary to contact me, has me wondering if she is truly happy in her new relationship. If you're wrapped up and enthralled with a new guy, as she seemed to make it out to be, an anniversary of an ex boyfriend shouldn't even be acknowledged and remembered. Even just for the sake of respect for her new guy. At least that's how I see it from a mans perspective. I would think after all these months, she would be further along. I'm probably over analyzing things as I tend to do, but I'd like a female take on it.
Philosoraptor Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 All rebounders are happy until the honeymoon period ends and they have to face the emotional aspects of the relationship. You are correct in your assumption that she isn't fully satisfied and is looking elsewhere for emotional support. Do not be her support, she ended the relationship and you already know it is unfair to her current partner for her to be having such conversations. If it happens again point that fact out and be done with the conversation.
Chi townD Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 If she told you that you two are never getting back together, then why still communicate with her. She told you that you don't have a chance. So, go NC; move on! Why are you wasting your time?
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