vla1120 Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 The day after I told him I was filing for divorce, he posted out on a dating site and has seen a few women already. It didn't bother me one single bit. But I just found out that last night, he met up with my XBFF, the one he had the affair with 17 years ago. I'm trying not to think about it, because the thought reduces me to tears. Has it gone on all this time? Is he doing it to get to me? So far, I have refrained from saying anything. I want to confront him and I'm not sure why. At the very least, I want to tell him to take his w**** far enough away that our friends won't see him with her and feel inclined to inform me. Most of all, I don't understand why I don't care about these other women he's meeting, but I care if he's with her. Is this sick feeling ever going to go away when I think of them? I know. I should stop thinking about them. I've been to counseling about it. I thought I had come to terms with it (clearly I did, enough to stay another 17 years.) I hate that his actions can make me feel like this. I know one thing, if I hear him say one more time that I'm screwing him financially, I'm going to revoke EVERY SINGLE bit of voluntary financial help in my agreement and let the judge decide what he gets. I doubt he'll get his car paid off and monthly help with his rent, and most of the furniture!
revitup Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 VLA, I read some of your other posts and personally I think you are really nice to this man if you are paying his bills voluntarily and willing to try the things I read from you is way cool.... Well anyway I hope you get this sorted out. REVITUP
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