Born To Win Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 I read that its better to put your feelings down on paper, Let me start by saying that me and my ex were together for 7 years. I loved her and really thought that she loved me. We did everything together vacations, family functions etc. the crazy thing is this year things seemed different she started creating drama, and I must admit that I was letting here get away with a lot of things I shouldn't have. I guess I was trying to make things work by letting here get her way. I know that she cheated on me before maybe even a couple of times. I had no real concrete evidence, but disappearing, not answering her phone, text etc. now look back I have no idea why I loved her so much its crazy and its like everyone around me knew that she was no good. In a way I did too but I always felt like she could be a better then she was acting. I know that I am not perfect I make a lot of mistakes daily. About 2 months ago she just disappeared from my life completely stopped answering the phone, text etc, erased my from all social networks, her family did the same. And I thought that her family loved me like one of there own. I haven't heard from her since she even changed her number it was no argument or nothing. I saw her uncle downtown while I was at lunch and he asked me how she was doing I told him the situation. He told me that she is a f'd up person and most of them in there family is like that. I called her father and talked to him and he was like well does want to talk to you and I should move on with my life. Now this is a man who I was very close too but that day the convo was very different. I'm coping with the situation, and its ok that she is a coward but can anybody explain to me how can a person do something like that to someone they have been with all this time. Since we have common friends I often see people comment on her statuses on my newsfeed and it seems like its nothing happened and everyday is a party. I feel as though she stole so much from like I've been robbed of my time/money/youth. He'll I'm still paying in the ring I gave her . Who does this type of things?
Balzac Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Who does this type of things?. You need to ask yourself this question. She gave you plenty of warning as you believe she cheated numerous times.
Author Born To Win Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 Who does this type of things?. You need to ask yourself this question. She gave you plenty of warning as you believe she cheated numerous times. you are 100% right Boss, i was chasing a delusion, Never again
hoping2heal Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 I'm coping with the situation, and its ok that she is a coward but can anybody explain to me how can a person do something like that to someone they have been with all this time. Since we have common friends I often see people comment on her statuses on my newsfeed and it seems like its nothing happened and everyday is a party. I feel as though she stole so much from like I've been robbed of my time/money/youth. He'll I'm still paying in the ring I gave her . Who does this type of things? She sounds selfish and immature. I think that immaturity gets thrown around so much as a concept that people tend to overlook just how serious maturity issues can actually be. It's terribly sad that after 7 years she couldn't be bothered to end things properly, but that's her selfishness and again..lack of maturity. But, you're not completely innocent in all of this either. Putting up with her cheating? Putting up with her starting drama? This person was treating you like crap long before the breakup and you allowed her to do it. I know it's common but I do not understand why people think that allowing someone to behave inconsiderately and with a lack of respect and decency is going to result in something positive for the relationship. It results in someone who treats you like crap to feel confident they can keep treating you like crap, nothing positive about that.
nescafe1982 Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 I'm sorry for what you're going through. After seven years, she could have at least done you the courtesy of breaking up with you instead of pulling a disappearing act! You will eventually count your lucky stars that she is out of your life. For now, just be patient with yourself and be with friends.
Author Born To Win Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 You are exactly right, I tolerated way to much bs and I'm not even that type of person. I always felt like I owed her or something, I felt like I created that monster. I admit when we first met I liked the mean hard to get attitude but since I have gotten old I hate it now. Of should I say have paid for it. But the signs were all over the place I just couldn't see them, who has 400 pics on Instagram and not one off you fiancé lol I got punk'd
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