Navy romance Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Okay so I was in this relationship for about a year when she broke it off due to unfortunate situations at the time. It was a rough break up. We loved each other at least we made it clear we loved each other through out the relationship. She broke it off over FB because she said she couldn't bare tell me in person. She was afraid to see me cry. Respectable I cut off all ties from her. This occurred in January and I suffered like everyone else and got over it. The misery ended and I was finally back to my old self. I enlisted in the Navy and the first thing that came to my mind was her. Still loving her and all I decided to drop an email. (First contact in 8 months) I told her I was leaving and I missed talking to her nothing too serious. I didn't hint at the fact I loved her still. She said she missed me too and was wanting to talk to me. She flirts with me here and there and she's been doing better it seems. I really love this girl and I don't know what to do. It seems she's giving me mixed signals. She says she misses me yet she never makes the effort to go to dinner with me or something to catch up. She's avoiding me. I want to tell her how much she means to me before I leave and might not see her ever again. I was just wondering because it seems like she might have a guy and she's treating me like a back up or something. I'm a very emotional and sweet guy she is my first serious girlfriend serious love and she took my virginity I would never do that but I feel like she is doing that
sm4284 Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Well if you think she is holding you as a back up then quit talking to her all together. There is nothing you can do to confront her about maybe having a boyfriend unless you have already asked her casually like " So have you met anyone?" or "Seeing anyone special?" which im assuming you did. BUT if those are insecurities or just mistrust feelings then you need to fix yourself before telling her anything serious. Jumping back into an ex's life with past insecurities will ruin your relationship alot quicker the second time around because you will reinforce her feelings as to you both not being the best thing for eachother. Other than that just casually ask her if she would like to do something or grab a cup of coffee to catch up. If she agrees take it SLOWLY from there and work on it. If she just doesnt want to then let her go completely.
Mcscooter Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 I could give you some advice, but I would like to know if your active or reservist?
Charym88 Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 My advice is to not stop talking to her. If you love her, don't do it. Life is too short to not tell people how you feel. I say give it a try so you won't go your whole life pondering on what-ifs. Just don't sound too desperate. You don't even have to tell her you love her, just give her hints. The fact that you two can communicate is a start. You never know what the outcome will be.
Author Navy romance Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 I could give you some advice, but I would like to know if your active or reservist? Active duty
Author Navy romance Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 My advice is to not stop talking to her. If you love her, don't do it. Life is too short to not tell people how you feel. I say give it a try so you won't go your whole life pondering on what-ifs. Just don't sound too desperate. You don't even have to tell her you love her, just give her hints. The fact that you two can communicate is a start. You never know what the outcome will be. Yeah I know what you're saying. I'm just afraid of the answer. I've always been afraid of the answer to everything because I'm afraid of losing her but I guess I have no choice now I have to tell her how I feel before I leave or I'm going to be wondering on the what ifs my whole contract
Mcscooter Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Active Duty, very well. Your going to be away from home for a very long time. In the Navy you might be lucky enough to go places. You can't have a girl hold you back especially during training. If you do get to go places, you'll be amazed. It ain't worth a girl i'll tell you. I was with my ex for 3 years, she didn't want me to join the Marines, but I did it anyways. She was with me while I was in the military. She couldn't handle the distance anymore. It was tough on me and her. figures she didn't want to make the commitment anymore. Relationships get in the way if your in the military. I recommend being single. 1
Author Navy romance Posted August 12, 2013 Author Posted August 12, 2013 A really good friend of mine just enlisted and this is pretty much the exact same advice I gave him. Mcscooter speaks the absolute truth. **** my life haha I guess true love doesn't last
xxiansharpexx Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 I agree with what some of the others have posted, it sounds as though she has a guy and is keeping you around for old times sake or maybe as a back up plan. It seems as though you are being too nice for her to be able to see you as more than a old close friend. ThisTen Ways: How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back is a page about things you can do to try to get her back, but from the sounds of things I think maybe you should move on.
Mcscooter Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 **** my life haha I guess true love doesn't last Love is Love, but in the military you have to enjoy your time while doing your service. Don't let a relationship get in the way for now. You'll know when your ready. There's also more than 60% of chances of relationships failing in the military. For me it seems like more. I know it's just statistics and they shouldn't matter, but they prove a point sometimes. If you actually get to go around the world like Spain, Australia, or even Japan. You'll understand what i'm talking about.
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