zues Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Was seeing a woman for 6 months didnt work out. went no contact and broke it. she then asked me to be friends, but by the looks of it expects me to do all the work as her friend? something clicked in my head, i have decided why should be heartbroken and sick, worrying over someone who obliviously isint doing the same about me, who doesnt care about me. Never make someone your priority when your just there option. Im a free man at last . so im going no contact again and im moving on
JDPT Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 I commend you for coming to that realization. It appears that she was essentially looking for a crutch in the meantime until she finds a new one. I never understood the concept of being "friends" after a break up, in only generates more wounds for you to later heal on your own. Move forward and never look back.
Tayla Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 To each there own on how to move into the future. Some prefer to link their past relations and move forward in a different way. Most foundations if met with friendship and respect have a tendency to sustain and move past the hurt. It does take some time. For some its best to create a future without them. Its a personal choice. I don't always throw the baby out with the bath water but instead value the goodness and keep a healthy distance that doesn't cross the line. Sounds like cutting the loss and moving on is a decision you are okay with. Best to you. 2
soccerrprp Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 To each there own on how to move into the future. Some prefer to link their past relations and move forward in a different way. Most foundations if met with friendship and respect have a tendency to sustain and move past the hurt. It does take some time. For some its best to create a future without them. Its a personal choice. I don't always throw the baby out with the bath water but instead value the goodness and keep a healthy distance that doesn't cross the line. Sounds like cutting the loss and moving on is a decision you are okay with. Best to you. Holy schmoly, Tayla. You're views are the exception on LS. I love it! I'm with you on this! A number of things play into how you continue with your relationship with an ex, but generally speaking, your philosophy is consistent with my own and it has paid off BIG TIME!
cavalier99 Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 (edited) To each there own on how to move into the future. Some prefer to link their past relations and move forward in a different way. Most foundations if met with friendship and respect have a tendency to sustain and move past the hurt. It does take some time. For some its best to create a future without them. Its a personal choice. I don't always throw the baby out with the bath water but instead value the goodness and keep a healthy distance that doesn't cross the line. Sounds like cutting the loss and moving on is a decision you are okay with. Best to you. I agree in most cases it is better to just move on and just stay NC especially if you feel like your being used as a crutch..Good decision on your part. I happen to maintain a good friendly relationship with my ex without any hard feelings. But ive known her for like 14 years and we dated for 8. There is a huge history so i have no problem appreciating her without any emotional involvement and it doesnt feel right anymore just to stay NC since ive recovered. That being said i wouldnt reccomend ANY Contact with an ex until you really can handle listening to their new relationship issues ecetera without any adverse reaction and vice versa. It took months and months of hard core NC to get indifferent and there really isnt another other way i know of that works as well. Cav Edited August 11, 2013 by cavalier99
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