stansmam Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Hi, I desperatley need advice, im in a right mess and tbh, im devestated! Me and my bf have been rocky for a while and we finally came t the decision of splitting up last week. I was/am completely heart broken, id have done anything to make it work. We used to be so madly in love, the kind of love i never knew existed. Thing is, i live in his house, i gave up everything i had 5 months ago. So, now ive got nowhere to go. I dont live near family. So we have decided to live together until i sort somewhere. Its just awful. I thought i was feeling better and so decided to go out on fri night. I decided not to let him drag me down n so i got dolled up, put happy music on and went out with my mates. I didnt contact him or anything. Then, next thing i know, he bursts into my room screaming that ive been damaging his house!!?? He tbought id swapped clothes bags with bin bags to get flies in his house. Wtf??!! Then he got everything i owned and threw it all down the stairs. My life was just a heap at the bottom of the stairs!! Obv i was pretty upset so i left. I returned only to speak to him in a public place where we had the most open and honest conversation weve ever had. He said im not the person he got with and hes been trying to get that back. I changed myself to try and keep him and im kicking myself for that cos it made me lose him. He said he just doesnt want me anymore. Im devestated. And the fact i live there makes things 10 times worse. I would do anything to get him back and get back to how we were wen we were happy. Someone give me some advice please. This is just so awful!!
darkmoon Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 (edited) put on a sexy outfit, go out even to a lone coffee shop, just pretend you are out there, and look happy at home constantly, wash rinse repeat until he starts lusting after you (he has a penis, right?) maybe you will both end up making nice, you two need to talk nice, not whining or living in the past, but about happiness I get the feeling that this is not quite how you want things to be, but you do not hold the high cards here no pleading or trying to win him, they are not attractive or effective here, trying is too noticeable, pleading is pathetic, so do not direct any sexual advances to him but let him notice your behaviour...sweetly, let his penis throb meanwhile, see what he does Edited August 11, 2013 by darkmoon
Author stansmam Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 Thank u for your replies. Yeah, my self esteem is really at rock bottom!! Im absolutly gutted!! But ive gone back to the house today, determined not to let him know how i really feel. listened to lots of girl power music first to put me in a good frame of mind then went in, put a brave face on and started sorting my stuff. I moved everything from our bedroom into my new bedroom. Sorted it all out and made it MY room. He was very very sheepish. I looked happy and i was singing along. Im refusing to let him drag me down. I desperatly want him to fall for me again but i will not show him that. As far as he knows, im in that room until i have saved enough to leave. Hes not said much n mentioned something about me saving. Is this the way to rekindle my romance? I want him to lust after me agsin, so im making myself unavailable. 1
darkmoon Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 (edited) "I want him to lust after me agsin, so im making myself unavailable"....yes, look horny but be going out to meet some people, nobody much, I say this because if you have expensive outings he might be pissed off, but just find a mini-skirt/s etc and off you go, please be intuitive and move on this today, make his penis point in your direction ... maybe if you stay in, tease him with subtle faint sounds of moans while you masturbate in your bedroom, quiet enough so neighbours do not hear, just a few minutes for him to notice, do it nonchalant-like, know he can hear you see his reactions over a week or so, stay in your room after each moaning session act like you do not need him... Edited August 11, 2013 by darkmoon
Author stansmam Posted August 12, 2013 Author Posted August 12, 2013 Thanks darkmoon, I shall be acting on this asap! Gonna hit the shops to make sure i have subtle but sexy stuff to casually be wearing. I have a few days to sort my head out as were on opposite shifts n then ive got a night out planned (planned wen we were together)so he'll see me all dressed up for that Im resisting the temptation to text him even tho hes started txting me, just about boring stuff, but its a start!!x
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