Hilly1990 Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Hey, I've been with my "partner" for 11 months now and recently we moved in togeather as it made sense. It was a big change for me moving in as she already has 2 children but I took up the roll and treated them like my own and enjoy it and now I feel like we have a bond. A week ago she told me she wasn't happy anymore with Me. She wants time to find herself and care for the children on her own. She's never really been on here own, she came out of a 7 year relationship before we meet each other. She asked me to leave last week and wants to carry on the relationship but without living togeather, I found this very hard to hear and took it completely the wrong way and over reacted as she said see hasn't been happy for months?? Was I living in a different world?? It's the summer holidays and the children are off and I've got time off and I think it's all got to her it's overwelmed her and now she feels trapped. (I go back to work in 5 days) Words were exchange, some not very nice. I packed my stuff I went. 2 days later se text me saying she was lonely and missed me? I'm very weak, I came round and could see she was struggling so I helped her out. I was about to leave then she asked if I'd like to go out with her and the kids, I said yes. Ever since I've still been here. Now she's staying she dosnt want a relationship at all, I've asked her again and again to change her mind and tell her how things could change but she said she dosnt want to be with me..? I'm sure anyone else by now would of left by now. I'm confused she says all this and were still having sex and sleeping in the same bed. I'm clinging onto something that I don't think is there anymore. She's made it clear she dosent want me anymore so why am I still here, I'm finding it so hard just to let go. I will I be losing 3 people instead of 1. I'm not sure what's happening right now, she's confusing me aswell as herself. I know I need to man up and just leave and break all contact but I just can't. Why is she allowing me to stay and letting us get close when she's said all these hurtful things to me. I keep setting myself a day to leave but I just can't. Can this relationship possible be fixed by me staying of am I just hurting myself even more by lying to myself? Am I really doing the right thing in staying and trying to make it work even though she's the one with the problem?
Philosoraptor Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Sounds like you were her rebound, and sadly you got attached to her and the children while she was using you to heal from her past. She seems very unstable and likely will bounce around between men and waffle back and forth with her emotions for quite awhile until she gets over the loss of that 7 year relationship.
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