tme0 Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 I know in the beginning of a relationship, you have the honeymoon phase- where everything is hunky dory 24/7, you're so excited to see/talk to them all the time and everything is just rainbows and sprinkles. But what about once the honeymoon phase is over? And you're both going through the hum and drum of daily life. You're still excited to see them, but maybe your heart doesn't beat faster the entire time you're together. How do you know it's real love?
Leigh 87 Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Everyone will have a different outlook as to what "real" love is. For me? I never really get out of the honeymoon phase if I am really in love. Sure, we face daily issues that life tends to throw at you.. Yet, if you're genuinely compatible and you're both mutually IN love with each other.. Then the butterflies should never really leave. People who do not feel thrilled or elated every day at least at some point, to have such a partner who you're so in love with, have settled in my personal opinion; settled for people they are not attracted to and/or not that crazy about because they want kids and a family and their partners are nice enough. I honestly never stop feeling in the honeymoon phase, when I am truly in love with a guy. A few other emotions I go through when I am in love... I feel happy every time I see them. Their calls and texts make me smile and feel in such a way that no one else in my life makes me feel. I take note of what they do and say when they are in a group of people; I focus on them a lot more than I would anyone else I know. I never lose the sexual desire for them, and in fact; it gets stronger the longer I am with them. I also think about getting married and the wedding lol, if I am really in love with them and they have clearly indicated they are on the same page as me.. I definitely save the wedding thoughts until they make it clear that they also think about it and it is something that makes them happy to think about. For me, personally, being in love equates to wanting to get married; I do not think about getting married at all initially, even if I am falling in love. I keep the wall up until they mention it first. 1
Author tme0 Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 I think I should've put this in the marriage section.
dichotomy Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 I know in the beginning of a relationship, you have the honeymoon phase- where everything is hunky dory 24/7, you're so excited to see/talk to them all the time and everything is just rainbows and sprinkles. But what about once the honeymoon phase is over? And you're both going through the hum and drum of daily life. You're still excited to see them, but maybe your heart doesn't beat faster the entire time you're together. How do you know it's real love? Beyond the first romantic honeymoon love? When it is hum drum, and you don't feel like it - when you’re tired, hurt, and angry, when you don't even like them at the moment.... but you still give, you still put their needs, their growth, above your own - when you sacrifice for them like no other - this is love. When you have a child, you will know this kind of love as well. If you’re religious - you may also understand this kind of love too.
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