mugirl213 Posted November 4, 2004 Posted November 4, 2004 I confronted my boyfriend after us not having sex for 2 weeks to ask him what was up and why he didn't want to be intimate with me...thinking he found me unattractive, etc. He said this is not the case, but quickly became annoyed with me for pressing him for answers. So flash forward to Monday, where I again pressed him for answers and he became annoyed (and rightly so, I see what I did wrong)....and we slept apart on Monday night. He said that night that he was "digging deep' to give me better answers on my question and needed time to "re-evaluate his feelings." Therefore I'm expecting some sort of new information. I told him, OK, I'll wait for you, but I'm not bringing this up again, you need to come to me. So on Tuesday, he spoke to me and we made small talk in the morning and when he left for the day he gave me a long lingering hug. Since he'd been distant until this point, I thought, OK, we're getting somewhere. We work for the same company and I didn't email him as I usually do to "give him time" and in the afternoon he sent me a cute little document he made of a kid with a sad face that said "I miss you." So i sent him an ecard that basically said I miss you too. Then last night, we talked a bit about the election, did some stuff on our own, and then he says to me, I'm watching TV in here (his room...we live in a 2bdr apt) b/c I took my contacts out and I can't see the TV from far away. So I took this as an invite and went in and sat with him and watched TV til about 11 PM. Well I went to go take my medicine and came back to get my pillow and said, I think I'm going to sleep now...I'm tired. He said, yeah me too. And gave me a hug and kiss goodnight. So as I was leaving I asked if he wanted me to close his door, he said sure. So then I walked back in and said, if you'd like to come sleep in my room (as we normally do), you're more than welcome. 10 minutes or so passed and he came over to sleep with me. Then we cuddled and fell asleep. This morning, more election talk and he came over and sat with me as I vegged for a bit before work. Hug and kiss goodbye, normal work emailing, etc. So I feel like he's forgotten about "what he was digging deep on." And is not going to mentino it. I want to give him the time he needs, but...it seems like things are nearly back to normal and we've still not discussed the issue at hand. Do I bring it up and go back on me saying I wasn't going to? Or keep waiting for him???
paradissa1 Posted November 4, 2004 Posted November 4, 2004 well i can tell you after being married for ten years sex isnt everything in a relatiopnship.sometime we just get bored and sometime a day cant go by without "it".maybe its hard for him to talk about sex . give it a few more days and then ask him whats up.good luck i hope everything turns out
Pocky Posted November 4, 2004 Posted November 4, 2004 Why don't you tell him you're horny and you want sex tonight. Demand it.
tiki Posted November 4, 2004 Posted November 4, 2004 Two words: Strip tease. If that doesn't get 'em, he's gay.
lokai Posted November 4, 2004 Posted November 4, 2004 Originally posted by tiki Two words: Strip tease. If that doesn't get 'em, he's gay. Or tired from grading exams Or just tired! Or maybe in a bad mood.
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