GF wants a break, says she still loves me, not sure what I should do...

[Carth]

So about two weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me. She said she still loves me but needs to focus on collage, her job, her music, and getting closer to God. She said she still wants us to be together, just after she's gotten her life straightened out some....in like 9 months or so. She said she still wanted us to be friends and that she couldn't live without seeing me here and there. She said that she could see us in a serious relationship and that she know's we're gonna last, just that a serious relationship wouldn't be good for us right now and that it would only end in heartbreak.

 

Like I said, that was two weeks ago. I've read a bit on this website and from what I can see I've made some mistakes since then haha...first off I tried to convince her that it didn't have be this way and to get back with me, second I didn't know about the NC rule, and third, I agreed that we'd just be friends for now and that I'd support her through this and be there for her when she needed me.

 

I found out about the NC rule and put it into play 3 ago. She contacted me today saying she hopes I'm ok, and I'm not sure if I should reply or not? Did I **** myself by agreeing to be friends? Is it too late to apply the NC rule? Should I reply back?

 

I just don't know what to do:/ I've known her for two years before we started dating and she's not the type of girl to lead guys on and play games with them. I *think* she's serious about us getting back together after she's gotten her life straightened out, but idk what to do. I love her. I'm 99% certain she still loves me. Do I just be her friend for now and support her? Should I reply to her text today or should I continue with NC? I'm just confused:/ Wish I knew about this forum two weeks ago haha..

[JDPT]

This is a perfect example of her putting her goal and plans before anyone and quiet honestly you should do the same. We don't know what the future holds, so to assume that in 9 months you will pick you exactly form where you left off is essentially wishful thinking. I commend you for initiating NC, and quiet honestly don't feel bad if you promised her the world while you were in the relationship, this is not a "break" this is break up. Focus on yourself and start moving forward with YOUR plans and goals now that you are a free agent. It's time to embark on your healing process and the road will only get bumpy but in time and if you put in the effort you will come out victorious. Be strong and don't reply, this is only for your own good.

[Balzac]

Nine months of vague friendship?? She's fooling you and possibly herself.

I'd move on, maybe tell her in one very short message that you're not going to be her FriendZone support guy. There is no reason to drag this out dude, she ended it.

[Misfortune]

Nine months of vague friendship?? She's fooling you and possibly herself.

I'd move on, maybe tell her in one very short message that you're not going to be her FriendZone support guy. There is no reason to drag this out dude, she ended it.

 

Is she pregnant? :? "Breaks" = break up/I'll do w/e I want with whoever and its ok cuz we're on a break. You have no other choice but to give and move on with life. You think you know someone until a situation arises where they become someone else completely. I would just stay NC until she talks about getting back together, that's just me. Usually, being their "friend" afterwards gets you friend zoned.