amandaspride Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 If you have followed my posts on the general relationship forum you will know I am about to have a weekend away in a lovely country hotel for a couple of nights with a guy I have been out with a few times and have known for a long time. The occasion is what it says on the tin and is obviously going to consumate our relationship. I haven't alept with another guy other than my husband in almost 25yrs and given that hes almost 8yrs my junior I am soooooooooooooooooooo nervous about it all. How many oufits do I take? Do I offer to pay half? What if I snore!? Given his age 35 do I try and dress a bit younger? Sometimes I get in such a state about it all i feel like opting out!
iKING Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 Relax. 1. As many as you need for casual wear, and dress wear for two (three?) days. 2. You can, and he might find it a nice thought, but he'll likely insist on paying for everything. 3. You're a human, and he'll understand that. I'm sure you'll catch him fart. 4. You're welcome to, he may appreciate it, but stick to being yourself. 5. Again, relax. Most importantly, have a great time. 1
sexysue Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 GOODNESS ME your really beating yourself up about this aren't you! This guy wants to be with you GO AND ENJOY YOURSELF !! He thinks your sexy and has invited you to spend time with him because he wants too. Buy yourself some sexy lingerie to feel confident and in control, get your hail and nails done, wax where you need to wax, get pampered! Buy some new shoes, get your husband to pay for a couple of new expensive dresses with bright colours. Take twice as many dresses as you need. He's not expecting you to pay for anything trust me. I understand you are concerned about an age differential but don't be just enjoy and I want to know how you got on !!!
sexysue Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 (edited) When is the weekend away? Edited August 11, 2013 by sexysue
Author amandaspride Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 Yes I know sue but it's just crossing THAT line isn't it? I haven't had sex with anyone else in 23 yrs, What happens if he thinks I'm a disappointment, what happens if I bottle it at the crucial moment? He's a lovely guy and trust me on our dates I have REALLY wanted to but it all seems so premeditated going to a hotel. What will the reception staff think when the see our obvious age difference? Sometimes I am really looking forward to it then the next moment I want to call the whole thing off.
Author amandaspride Posted August 15, 2013 Author Posted August 15, 2013 Well all packed ready to go tomorrow night,,, feel 18 again butterflies don't begin to describe how I feel. Soooooooooooooooooooooo nervous,,, wish me luck xx
clia Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 You'll be fine! Just have a glass of wine and relax!
Mascara Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Wait - your husband is aware that you're going away with another man to a hotel this weekend? Dafuq did I just read? Oh believe me, this one has the potential for a hot mess. Do you want buttered or salt popcorn? 1
clia Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Oh wow, I only read the original post and thought she had recently gotten divorced after a long marriage. Oops! Well, have fun, I guess! Hopefully it won't cause problems.
will1988 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 this should be interesting... I've brought pop corn. I am against cheating... unless you and your husband are swingers and he is allowing you to do this. Otherwise.... ah why bother, you know what I'm going to say.
Amethystic Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Chillax people. Read her other posts - Her husband knows about this and actually is encouraging it. Monogamy isn't the "one true way" in relationships. Some people have open relationships, and if all of the adults involved are consenting and aware, it isn't "cheating." Your morals and ideals don't apply to everyone's lifestyle. Now, to answer your question OP - you chillax too! I know you're frazzled, and if I were in a similar situation, I'd be a ball of nerves too. But really, it sounds like it's going to be fun experience, don't opt out - enjoy this opportunity to get away and have some fun sexay chocolate lubbins . If you snore or fart, what can you do? Laugh about it! You're human, and normal bodily functions aren't worth the fuss we make over them. If you know your itenerary, it'll be easier to know how many and what kinds of outfits to pack. Are you going clubbing? Hiking? The beach? Whatever you wear, pick your most comfortable and flattering outfits in your best colors, so at least you'll feel confident and look good even if the butterflies are driving you crazy! Don't worry about looking "younger." He's attracted to you as you are, so don't feel like you need to do anything extra. Aside from the essentials, definitely pack some sexy lingerie, lube, toys, condoms, etc. If you're into wearing perfume, bring that too. Guys really seem to love "dessert" scents like vanilla... makes him wanna have a taste Oh, and if you're worried about "morning breath," grab a box of Therabreath mouth wetting lozenges from Target or CVS. They don't just cover bad breath, they extinguish it. I swear by those things! He invited you, so you don't have to offer to pay half, but if you want, you can offer to pay for drinks or entertainment on a case-by-case basis (he'll likely decline, but appreciate the offer). Have fun, and let us know how things go
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