Veera Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 Im wondering few things about my ex and his gigs rebound. would like some comments. They have been dating for 5 months now, still there is no sign on fb about their dating, or at least i dont see it. we broke up 6 month ago. i am on nc right now, my 1. ended in 2 weeks cos he texted me. now im 4 days short on 30 days nc. she is very active on fb (don´t see her, but i know) I know that they have been on few trips but there is no pictures about those trips. i understand that at the beginning he didn´t want me to see anything about them, but it is been 5 month now, why think my feelings any more, if they are so in love. And he knows that i have been on dates. during this nc what has happend - i cleand my fb some stupid posts that my friends have wrote there - after that he blocked me from seeing what he likes etc. (don´t really mind). he still has cover picture of our last trip and fb pic is the one he took just after we broke up. he is either been crying or sick, before he took that pic. and then what happened yesterday, we loved music, very much, and we found this band arctic monkeys together and he knows listen to lyrics of a songs i hear. i posted one song to my friends fb page (our mutual friend) and told how great the song is. i dont usually use much facebook, but we talked about that song yesterday. and we were both online. song is do i wanna know, and lyrics goes like: Crawlin’ back to you Never thought I’d call you when in, I’ve had a few As I always do Maybe I’m too Busy being yours to fall for somebody new. Now I’ve thought it through Crawling back to you well after that my ex liked his new gf:s new profile picture. i wonder did he listen than song? do men think like that? i wasnt thinking him when i posted that song, but i felt like he tried to say to me that " im with this new one now. dont want me back" and the song was not about him and one more funny thing happened in fb. so his rebound bi*** changed her profile picture and cover picture on fb. Profile picture was old picture, which was taken by professional and she was thin in it and had lots of make up and cover picture was new one which showed that she has gained weight and has awful roots, too small clothes and she was not comfortable with those clothes.(and picture was taken from a trip she was with her father, not with my ex) my ex liked the picture how she used to be. not the way she looks now. I used to have little weight problems and that reaction would have just pissed me off. he is supposed to like me the way i am cos he is the one who puts cream in foods. is he stalking me on fb? as you can see i am is it good or bad. and why his gf is on that "blocking me stuff" also. I would not do that after 5 month? would you?
blotter Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 You are not in No Contact if you are stalking his facebook page. Soooo you are five months out and have not been No Contact and you are not moving on. All the while you ex is happily moving on with his new woman. Sounds like a waste of time to me. 3
JDPT Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 It appears that your life revolves around FB way too much and you read into every little thing you see online. I can only suggest to stay away from it, at least for a while until you find yourself becoming more emotionally stable.
Author Veera Posted August 10, 2013 Author Posted August 10, 2013 i didnt stalk them at all on my first 24 days on nc. actually i wasn´t much on facebook at all cos busy at work and social life. and i was really working on getting my self together. i was doing very well and i was happy. now i quit smoking, and something hit me bad. i had couple hard days (1. vacation without my ex) started hang in facebook and see whether they were serious or not. Should i go on this nc and try to win him back or should i go on this nc and heal me. i know i made mistake stalking them but those lonely nights when all i wanted was a smoke (don´t ever start smoking!!!) You guys are right. No more facebook stalking, actually i just blocked him so i dont even see if he is online or not. luckily im going to go abroad for couple weeks. And as for calling her bi***h, well on my deperate moments, i found out that she had this circular about my work place on her fb site, it wasn´t a nice one..
JDPT Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 I love how these days , a relationship is not official until it's on Facebook. I feel so old! I guess I'm one of the very few who REFUSES to jump on the FB wagon. It only simplifies life just a bit. I guess we are both "old fashioned."
JDPT Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 I view snooping around online as the equivalent of driving through your ex's home to see if his/her car on their driveway. What do you honestly get out of that? You only open up more wounds that will take longer to heal. As stated give up social media and focus on recovery. You are all that matters at this point leave the past where it belongs. Focus on yourself and the many good things you have going for yourself and you will realize that stressing over someone isn't worth your time or effort. 2
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