Dumped85 Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 Broke no contact after 1 week, called ex girlfriend and her mum answered the phone. Im such an idiot. It's like I let go of hope of a future with her, cos I know in my mind its over, and then I come up with something and shes the first person I want to share things with. Its been 2 months since break up. I just want to learn to let go. I want her to be happy, with out the stress of a nutter ex pursuing her. She deserves that.Im such a fool. We were in eachothers shadows when we were together and that put strain on us when we were together. Where I became closer it pushed her away. We both deserve someone else who will be a better match. 1
Jenny1234 Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 Don't be so hard on yourself. You're only human. So what you had a slip up...just get back to NC and carry on the best you can. Stay strong
Author Dumped85 Posted August 10, 2013 Author Posted August 10, 2013 Seeing her for 5 minutes to get some things, hope im strong
Author Dumped85 Posted August 10, 2013 Author Posted August 10, 2013 I handled it well, was a strange feeling. Felt like I was speaking to an old friend rather than a person id spent intimate moments with. Only felt slightly sad when we said goodbye. But no tears. If I was told I'd feel this way a month ago, I'd say BS. I'll never forget her, but I'm stronger than id ever thought I would be.
JDPT Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 The mind and the heart don't always connect when going through a break up. You mentioned many reasons as to why you tow aren't compatible and perhaps never were. Reason things out and truly internalize why you are no longer together. Reroute your thoughts when you think of her during those weak moments, we have all broke NC in the past, some have broken it once, some have broken it several times, however, it's what you get out of it after you break up which is always the intense pain and agony all over again. Put your hands on fire and you will get burned, so what do you think you need to do? easier said than done, but we live and learn. Don't beat yourself up over it, dust yourself off and get back on that saddle. 1
Author Dumped85 Posted August 10, 2013 Author Posted August 10, 2013 Would it smell of desperation if I asked to see her today to get something I forgot about yesterday to get from her, I do need it. But I also want to see her again. Thought it was it, but yesterday felt like we could start fresh with a new approach. Or maybe im delusional and its just over.
likeagunshot Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 DONT ASK HER. get a friend of yours to get it for you. i know its tempting but look at it this way. you felt so bad and guilty for breaking NC last time and now you wanna do it again? DONT. be strong. you can find another solution to get whatever you need withour compromising your pride
JDPT Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 You said it, you are using this thing you need to retrieve as an excuse to see her. This is the epitome of a weak moment. Be strong the moment will pass.
Author Dumped85 Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 She said that id be able to get it , but not today. I regret so much during the relationship, I was to open with my feelings to soon and it scared her off, I put my depression on her, my family keep yelling saying if she was the right girl for me she wouldn't have left. I know they are right., and I believe that. My heart is my enemy, I hate it. Hurts that she seemed to be doing good, and Im on a roller coaster.
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