Scofield Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 Almost a month NC, and I went thru every scenario in my head concerning how I would react to a break in NC. I've even given advice on these forums... and I just ruined all credibility. My ex texted me out of the blue. "I'm sorry for the way I treated you. If it makes you feel better, Karma is a bitch, and I just got mine." She wrote. I wrote back. I said I had heard rumors. (that she left me for a doctor) she said "The rumors are true. I'm a piece of **** and I deserve everything I get." I said, "You're a good woman [her name], my feelings are hurt, your feelings are hurt, life sucks, then you die. Don't dwell and take your own advice and live well. Maybe you two will work it out." Her response, "Never." I broke no contact, and I feel crushed. NO CONTACT helps for a reason!! I can't take it back now, so I just have to start over again I guess. Square one of the emotional rollercoaster. Needed to vent, I'm sorry. Until I learn how to take my own advice, I won't give any out. I
StandardToaster895 Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 In some ways, this is a good exercise in reminding you that you're not the only one who suffers in life in general, and in your breakup. It's not just us faceless internet people who have problems, even your ex has them too. Life's a bitch, can't let it get to you.
Author Scofield Posted August 10, 2013 Author Posted August 10, 2013 Thanks for the responses. "If only there a a time to ignore a text." So true! Why did I even give that woman the satisfaction of a response? Because I'm an emotional idiot, that's why. Never again. (How many times have people spoken those words?)
tbf Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 The NC break happens to the majority of members who get bread crumbed by exes. What floors me is "you're a good woman"? What were you thinking? Assuming you're right handed, flatten your right palm so it's facing you, then slap yourself upside the forehead.
jesse93 Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 its ok man, same thing happened to me she texted me and i felt like i had to respond.. I think we all slip up at least once.. its so hard not to respond :/
Author Scofield Posted August 10, 2013 Author Posted August 10, 2013 Oh, I don't need to slap my own face, it already has been. No need to worsen the pain. I suppose it was inevitable, the promise of love, the pain of loss, the hope of redemption, then watch me dance... I was a fool. Never again.
Exitleft Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 It's ok, we've all done it at least once. Now you will remember how it felt the next time and be stronger in resisting. No problem
Author Scofield Posted August 10, 2013 Author Posted August 10, 2013 Hopefully there is not a next time.
It-is-what-it-is. Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 Hopefully there is not a next time. Why don't you block her so you chose to not have contact?
JDPT Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 Don't beat yourself up over it, it happens to all of us. Simply dust yourself off and get back on that saddle. However, you should analyze what she did. She turned to a comfortable place when she felt down, reality is you are no longer that shoulder she can run to and cry on. She is a big girl and should have the capability to deal with her own issues without finding the need to look for you. You would agree that this is detrimental to your recovery process hence the way you are feeling now. As stated don't obsess over it, next time she decides to text you, you will know exactly what to do, NC.
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