Myonenonly Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 (edited) Thanks in advance for reading this! I was dating this guy for 7 months and I developed feelings for him even though since the begining he said he wasnt ready for a relashionship...but he didn't show any feelings toward me or he was the best at hiding it... I knew he liked me because he used to go out and do things toghther but for the last 3 months I only saw him 3 times he claimed he wa very "busy"I took that's as a sign of not being interested in me and I give him space and since we're not in a relatioship I didn't ask me anything as to why is he disnatant or why he doesn't want to be in a relatioship with me? Because the answer is obvious plus I wasn't trying to change his mind! so I broke things off with him And asked me of we could still be "friends" I said no because I have feeling for you and it hurst me to be put at the bottom of your priority list... So he said he understood! And I hung up! I felt relieved but sad at the fact that what it couldve be! Then 2 weeks later I ran into him I waved and smiled at him! We made eye contact for maybe 2 secs he turned his head and ignore me completelly!!! Wow that hurt me I felt like crying! I sent him texting asking him of he had seen me and he said no! Then I texted him: "you know it hurt me more you doing that to me than not wanting to be in a relatioship with me" so what do you guys think?? Is this crazy! I was so emotional when that happened I wished I hadn't texted him anything? Edited August 10, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator More text
iKING Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 You told him you didn't want to be friends and he ignored you. Although the situation does suck, I don't know what outcome to that you were looking for.
TaraMaiden Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Did you lose it? Yes. Can you regain it? Yes. Forget it, block him, lose his number, move on. Sorted. 2
Author Myonenonly Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 You told him you didn't want to be friends and he ignored you. Although the situation does suck, I don't know what outcome to that you were looking for. Well but I broke things off with him before for the first time and I didn't wan to be friends either but either way he contacted my 4 days later he said he still wanted to still be friends like going to the movies hiking doing the things we used to do! I accepted that time because I thought it will be different maybe getting into a relationship 2 moths went by and no progress.. So this time it just surprise me and it totally out of character for him to ignore me that way like a mean face I've never seen before! Like his true colors came out! But I'm worried is how I sounded in the text I sent? What would you think of the girl if she sEnds you this text??
iKING Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Well but I broke things off with him before for the first time and I didn't wan to be friends either but either way he contacted my 4 days later he said he still wanted to still be friends like going to the movies hiking doing the things we used to do! I accepted that time because I thought it will be different maybe getting into a relationship 2 moths went by and no progress.. So this time it just surprise me and it totally out of character for him to ignore me that way like a mean face I've never seen before! Like his true colors came out! But I'm worried is how I sounded in the text I sent? What would you think of the girl if she sEnds you this text?? So you're upset that he got tired of chasing you the second time around breaking it off with him? I would think the girl had no idea what in the fuhk she wanted exactly.
New User Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Thanks in advance for reading this! I was dating this guy for 7 months and I developed feelings for him even though since the beginning he said he wasn't ready for a relationship...but he didn't show any feelings toward me or he was the best at hiding it... I knew he liked me because we used to go out and do things together but for the last 3 months I only saw him 3 times. He claimed he was very "busy" so I took that's as a sign of him not being interested in me and I gave him space. Since we're not in a relationship I didn't ask him anything as to why is he distant or why he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. The answer is obvious and I wasn't trying to change his mind so I broke things off with him. He asked me of we could still be "friends" I said no because I have feelings for you and it hurts me to be put at the bottom of your priority list... So he said he understood and I hung up. I felt relieved but sad at the thought of what it could've been. Two weeks later I ran into him and I waved and smiled at him. We made eye contact for maybe 2 secs then he turned his head and ignored me completely!!! Wow that hurt me I felt like crying! I sent him a text asking him of he had seen me and he said no! Then I texted him: "you know it hurt me more you doing that to me than not wanting to be in a relationship with me" so what do you guys think?? Is this crazy! I was so emotional when that happened I wished I hadn't texted him anything? Crazy? Not really. Emotional? Yeah. It sounds like he was pulling a "slow fade" and you more or less called him on it. I'd suggest you delete his number and get rid of him on any social networks that you may have him listed as a friend on. You told him that you didn't want to be friends because of your feelings (nothing wrong with that BTW), and when he saw you he responded like you weren't friends- or he really didn't see you. I'd suggest you just go no contact and don't obsess over it. People sometimes react in ways other than we might expect after a breakup. I've found this is especially true if they weren't the one that initiated the breakup- regardless of whether or not they were ready for the relationship to end. There's no point in either beating yourself up over it or being angry with him (though I realize that's easier said than done). Just move on with your life. If you see him again interact (or don't) with him in the same way that you would with a complete stranger. Don't worry about how sending the text came across- you can't put those bullets back in the gun.
Author Myonenonly Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 So you're upset that he got tired of chasing you the second time around breaking it off with him? I would think the girl had no idea what in the fuhk she wanted exactly. I guess but don't you think that he might have been out this a long time ago?? I'm so bad at this!
iKING Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 I guess but don't you think that he might have been out this a long time ago?? I'm so bad at this! That is very possible. Just takes practice of getting your heart broken a few times. That's actually far less depressing then it sounds. It gets easier is what I'm saying. 2
Author Myonenonly Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 Crazy? Not really. Emotional? Yeah. It sounds like he was pulling a "slow fade" and you more or less called him on it. I'd suggest you delete his number and get rid of him on any social networks that you may have him listed as a friend on. You told him that you didn't want to be friends because of your feelings (nothing wrong with that BTW), and when he saw you he responded like you weren't friends- or he really didn't see you. I'd suggest you just go no contact and don't obsess over it. People sometimes react in ways other than we might expect after a breakup. I've found this is especially true if they weren't the one that initiated the breakup- regardless of whether or not they were ready for the relationship to end. There's no point in either beating yourself up over it or being angry with him (though I realize that's easier said than done). Just move on with your life. If you see him again interact (or don't) with him in the same way that you would with a complete stranger. Don't worry about how sending the text came across you can't put those bullets back in the gun. I really wanted this to work out maybe talk to me and want a relatioship wih me we had good times I never did anything bad to him and neither did he.. He was too cold though. But now he thinks I might be an emotional woman who doesn't know what she wants.
New User Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 I really wanted this to work out maybe talk to me and want a relatioship wih me we had good times I never did anything bad to him and neither did he.. He was too cold though. But now he thinks I might be an emotional woman who doesn't know what she wants. I don't think that it really matters at this point. It didn't work out- nobody's fault necessarily, it just didn't. At this point I don't really think that his opinion of you matters much- not trying to be cruel, but it's over and there isn't really a point in pretending that it isn't or worrying about getting back together. Yeah, it could happen, but it's extremely unlikely IME and not something to plan for.
BradJacobs Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 What would you think of the girl if she sEnds you this text?? That she's not over me so don't respond and feed whatever hope that she's holding on to. Move on. He has.
Author Myonenonly Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 That she's not over me so don't respond and feed whatever hope that she's holding on to. Move on. He has. Wow so true! He kept me like that for a while didn't he! Well my feelings for him were genuine and after 2 weeks broken up only someone who doesn't have any feelings would get over someone that fast! In fact I just deleted all the pictures yesterday and even his phone number everything I'm Ready to move on and even if for one min he thinks he might want to come back I would say no! Because when he ignored me and I saw his gesture like I'm never getting over that!
Author Myonenonly Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 (edited) Thank you in advance for readin this..Guys should I contact him??? Its been a month since i broke things off with him... I miss him At some point he did say if I had any questions or doubts to ask him and we would work it out... I feel may my insecurities got the best of me and I decided to end it because at that moment at was thinking of all the things that could go wrong and how he didn't want to officially call me his gf.. Maybe if I contact him and talk to him About it we could be toghether... Or do u guys thing I should just let it go? or do you think by his actions he didn't really like me enough? Was he just stringing me along? Edited August 17, 2013 by Myonenonly Xoxo
Simon Phoenix Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 No, don't contact him. You are still emotional and erratic and there's nothing you can say that will make him want to have a relationship with you. It's pretty clear that he doesn't want to be romantically involved with you and I still don't think you can handle being friends. So stay away.
Author Myonenonly Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 No, don't contact him. You are still emotional and erratic and there's nothing you can say that will make him want to have a relationship with you. It's pretty clear that he doesn't want to be romantically involved with you and I still don't think you can handle being friends. So stay away. I was the one to end things with him however somehow I feel as though he had ended things with me. Is this normal?? omg This is the first time after my dicovrce that I have fallen for someone! I can't stop thinking about him, I still have hope he might still contact me! Idk why but I have that feeling!
hinatticus Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 You were married once? I thought you were a teenager. No offense.
Author Myonenonly Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 You were married once? I thought you were a teenager. No offense. Really? What made you think that? I'm new to all this dating thing I was with the same man for 10 years
Author Myonenonly Posted August 24, 2013 Author Posted August 24, 2013 Did you lose it? Yes. Can you regain it? Yes. Forget it, block him, lose his number, move on. Sorted. I didn't think it was possible to regain ones dignity... I worked On myself to be happy again and have confidence in myself... that type of relashioship I had with him left me with low self esteem for a while so I had to keep him out of my life even though it hurt...we work at the same building and right at closing time he passed by looking at my window I knew he wanted to see me whatever his reason is... But he didn't see me I was at thE back... when I was locking my door he was walKing back and we crossed each other paths literally! I just said hey and I ran to his arms and kissed him broke down In tears and told him how much I missEd him! NOT!!!!!!!not really I'm joking!!!! then I shook that thought off my mind and kept walking toward the parking lot..he asked I am doing! I said great and kept walking and he said alright take care! All the time he had the biggest smile.. I was very casual but inside I felt all kinds of feelings...I still feel the same way for him nothing has changed!
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