irc333 Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 (edited) I talked with a female friend about being blown off by my latest date. That she wouldn't give me her phone # if she wasn't interested in at least keeping in touch. I said my final good byes to her the other day, but my female friend thinks a good idea for me to keep "checking in" with her to see how she's doing in her troubled life. That apparently, as a man, we have to work steadily at said woman/women to get their attention or interest. She kind of joked that women work to court a lass for a couple of years to get a woman's attention, while once he's won her over, the woman spends next 20 years (I'm sure she's referring to marriage) of keeping him interested. She said her ex even had a hard time getting up off the couch to help her with the groceries. She suggested I should "check in" about once a month to see if she may be up for dinner. Edited August 9, 2013 by irc333
New User Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 I talked with a female friend about being blown off by my latest date. That she wouldn't give me her phone # if she wasn't interested in at least keeping in touch. I said my final good byes to her the other day, but my female friend thinks a good idea for me to keep "checking in" with her to see how she's doing in her troubled life. That apparently, as a man, we have to work steadily at said woman/women to get their attention or interest. She kind of joked that women work to court a lass for a couple of years to get a woman's attention, while once he's won her over, the woman spends next 20 years (I'm sure she's referring to marriage) of keeping him interested. She said her ex even had a hard time getting up off the couch to help her with the groceries. Um.... No... Just.. No. 7
Mr.Mango Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Yeah I'm with you on this one. I'll sometimes have chats with female friends of mine about the latest girl that blew me off/ignored me (pretty common when you're in the dating scene). Usually just comes up as a general topic, don't go out of my way to announce it. But I've also had those friends tell me to do the same thing as your friend is advising you. I once stupidly followed one of my friends advise and it went nowhere. Usually guys can be very straightforward with each other and their advice is usually: "Drop it" "It's over" "Move on". I'm not sure why some girls are so optimistic about a guys' chances with a different girl. I definitely have a hypocritical friend who reassures everyone of their luck but couldn't be bothered to get back to a guy she doesn't have the guts to tell she doesn't like. So it's not always advice you can really trust. Just my 2 cents.
white Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 (edited) Haaa. In my experience women are the worst people to get advice from regarding women, at least in real life (the women here aren't so bad). They're so bad at it I sometimes wonder if it isn't a sisterhood thing, making sure they give men all the worst advice so both they and these other women they don't even know can get a good laugh out of it. The only woman I know who gives me good advice is my sister, probably just because we aren't really close and she'd rather I actually get a problem sorted out and not call her. Edited August 11, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Profanity redacted 2
Mrlonelyone Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 I think straight women give advice based on their idealized image of themselves. They give the advice they think they are supposed to. OR, they give advice based on how they want a man they are into to act. The only real advice young men need about young women is this. They follow the crowd. A typical straight woman under 25ish will go for the man in highest demand who does not want them. (The same man will instantly be less attractive if he acts truly into the woman.) Eventually the woman will wise up and be able to appreciate a man she's into who likes them. 4
iKING Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 I think straight women give advice based on their idealized image of themselves. They give the advice they think they are supposed to. OR, they give advice based on how they want a man they are into to act. The only real advice young men need about young women is this. They follow the crowd. A typical straight woman under 25ish will go for the man in highest demand who does not want them. (The same man will instantly be less attractive if he acts truly into the woman.) Eventually the woman will wise up and be able to appreciate a man she's into who likes them. Every action has an equal and opposite reaction.
TB Rhine Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Kill it. Kill it with fire. A typical straight woman under 25ish will go for the man in highest demand who does not want them. (The same man will instantly be less attractive if he acts truly into the woman.) Eventually the woman will wise up and be able to appreciate a man she's into who likes them. I agree with all of this except the last line.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 I suspect that this will be one of the few times where everybody responding to the OP will be in agreement.
sweetkiwi Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 I talked with a female friend about being blown off by my latest date. That she wouldn't give me her phone # if she wasn't interested in at least keeping in touch. I said my final good byes to her the other day, but my female friend thinks a good idea for me to keep "checking in" with her to see how she's doing in her troubled life. That apparently, as a man, we have to work steadily at said woman/women to get their attention or interest. She kind of joked that women work to court a lass for a couple of years to get a woman's attention, while once he's won her over, the woman spends next 20 years (I'm sure she's referring to marriage) of keeping him interested. She said her ex even had a hard time getting up off the couch to help her with the groceries. She suggested I should "check in" about once a month to see if she may be up for dinner. You really think you should waste time/money/energy on a woman who refused to give you her number and blew you off??? Lord help you. 3
Lansing Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 You really think you should waste time/money/energy on a woman who refused to give you her number and blew you off??? Lord help you. Pretty sure you misread that. He was saying that his friend said a girl wouldn't give a guy a number if she wasn't at least a bit interested.. The thing is, girls give their numbers out ALL the time. They like the attention. They can chose not to answer the phone or that text when they get it but can still give out their number as an easy way out (not having to worry about rejecting the guy face to face, etc). Having said that... If a girl doesn't except your invites to go out and get to know each other more than don't keep beating a dead horse. If you ask her once or twice and she makes up excuses with no alternate suggestion then leave it. If you want to try once more wait like 2 weeks and try one more time but then that is it.
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