Should I break up with her even if we're happy?!!

[johmark]

Hello.

I'll just jump straight into it

I have a girlfriend and we are great and I love her so much and she does love me to. We have had our share of problems but believe that if you love each other and work at it then it'll always work out and that has worked for us

Brief history : I had an accident and had a spinal injury that paralysed me from the waist down. I worked my arse of and have become really independent except for some things like stairs and the likes. I also work hard for physio and I am seeing some improvements.

Here's my problem. I want to end the relationship because despite the fact that she loves me, I don't think it's meant to be. She read this article that said that having children is a little complicated and harder after spinal injury and she got so sad and cried alot about it. She even considered taking a break from us but said it wouldn't be fair to me but she hasn't really considered a version of life where I didn't get better. She brought up the breaking up alot as she cried and vented about the whole thing.

I felt like crap for a while and she didn't deserve what I'm putting her through despite it not being my fault. We talked and she said it was just her ranting cause the news was intense but she loves me and we'll figure it out. We are okay now and she says she is happy. She says am the best boyfriend in the world and she never wants us to ever end. But I can't stop thinking about everything

if she'll be happy in the future. If she feels trapped in this relationship even if it's not what she wants. If the reason were together is cause she is scared of life without me..

I' love her and she's my top priority even above me thus her happiness tramps mine so I know it'll suck but I can let her go if she'll be happier.

I just think she deserves better. I try treat her right and never forget the small things that make her smile(and I do **** up am not perfect) and I think am an awesome person. It's the things I can't control that get to me. I hate when she cries cause of things am going through, I hate that I can't take her everywhere cause there some places I can't go with the chair, I really feel but about the kids thing. I just want her to be happy and a part of me thinks she'll be happier without me.

[unexpectedlyhere]

This is so beyond the scope of my experience that I don't really have much advice to give, but I just wanted to say that I admire you. And your girlfriend. I hope you stand the test of life and circumstance

[Balzac]

Do you have objection to being more specific about the child comment?

Are you talking about the act of conceiving a child? Or the factors of coparenting as a chair daddy?

[mercuryshadow]

I just want to say that your post both hurt my heart and rang as true testament to real love. You must really love her if you are willing to let her go for the sake of her future happiness.

 

The only thing I feel qualified to say is that perhaps you should give it some more time. True love is the choice to walk beside one another. If in time your girlfriend still exhibits qualms about the future due to your condition, brings up ideas about breaking up, etc., then letting her go would be the best thing to do. If things improve on her end, then she is knowingly choosing to remain with you, even given the circumstances.

 

Best of luck.

[johmark]

Thanks alot I think I'll just give it time and trust that she wants to be with me and not take the decision away from her cause am assuming she's unhappy.