dumpedagain Posted November 3, 2004 Posted November 3, 2004 This is in regards to a girl whom I met via online Dating site and started seeing her for last 6 weeks. When the first time I saw her in reality, I didn't like her that much probably she seemed a bit chubby....and actually she wasn't....and I she called my skinny...I weight 154lbs and she weighs 110lbs.....After a week I called her again and we decided to hangout and slowly we went out together for like 8 times and I got interested in her. but I didn't make the move to that an extent. In the 9th time when we went out I started putting my hand in her waist and shoulders....She didn't say anything......but I didn't kiss her either, even though I was getting a positive sign from her. In the meantime my b'day came along which was yesterday.......and she came to my office where I work and I was alone........I decided before hand to offer her a flower...so I offered the pink rose to her.....and she didn't accept it at all...I tried my best but she just told that it's my b'day.......and I shouldn't bring any flowers for her.....so I gave up to make her take the flower which I bought....Then I asked her that can we go out to eat somewhere.........and she agreed.....as the place was at the walking distance so I again started putting my hand on her waist while walking.....she was trying to distance herself...but didn't do that much and I didn't get feel either......While eating we didn't have any confrontation, only thing she was favoring Bush and I favored Kerr....but we felt good talking to each other....... After eating while we were walking to her car...I started touching her hairs..and she kind of playingly objected....then I also started putting my hand on her waist.....Damn she was looking quite gorgeous in that black out-fit......And I put my hand on her shoulders and she said that her bag which she was carrying is already overburdening her.....As we were walking in a public place, I tried coaxing her to go for a walk in not so crowded place.....I even tried pulling her hand to come along with me, in a humorous way....but she didn't yield....then ....and then in the end we reached to her car.....and when I was putting my hand on her waist..and tried holding her hand too ......she told that I should try doing that with my g/f........and she is just my friend....and she knows I don't have any g/f..... This is what happened...After coming home, I felt so bad and I am not feeling good after that.......... CAn anyone answer my query.....Did she DUMP me......Should I stop trying her anymore.......I brought down my expectations (as she was not the type of girl I was looking for, but unfortunately I am not good at getting girls attracted to me, so I accepted her as she was and slowly I started liking her) ....Her voice is so sweet........ Please suggest me ?? What should I do now? Should I start exploring other options? Should I meet her again from now? Should I call her? & If she calls me should I accept her calls? I am in deep pain.......Thanks......
bluechocolate Posted November 3, 2004 Posted November 3, 2004 Well you didn't really get dumped because you were just dating. Chances are you're going to have to date few girls before you find the right one so you should try & get used to this sort of thing happening. Physically I don't think what you did was pushy or out of bounds when you've been dating for as long as you two - I'd say she's just told you that she doesn't want to be your girlfriend so you should forget about her and if she calls you & you're not dating someone else then go out with again & see what happens.
toe Posted November 4, 2004 Posted November 4, 2004 She is hinting to you that she wants to be your g/f.
EC Posted November 4, 2004 Posted November 4, 2004 I agree I think you guys have been dating a while and she wants to move it up a notch. I think she was also hinting she wants to be your girlfriend.
Pocky Posted November 4, 2004 Posted November 4, 2004 She is hinting to you that she wants to be your g/f. I have to agree.
savethedrama4allama Posted November 4, 2004 Posted November 4, 2004 Sounds like she is saying, you can only touch me here if I'm your girlfriend. She can't "dump" you unless she's your girlfriend anyway. Doesn't sound like you ever established that she is your girlfriend in the first place.
Sukotto Posted November 4, 2004 Posted November 4, 2004 You have to remember that all relationships should start out as friendship if its going to be long term, if she says she just want to be friends then she might be sincere. Maybe she wants to make sure you get the foundation of the relationship right. Be her friend at the moment, I was friends with my last girlfriend for about 6 months before we started dating. I already knew a great deal about her and well it lasted a good 2.5 years. If you start without the proper friendship then its likely to only last a few months.
SnowWhite Posted November 5, 2004 Posted November 5, 2004 You went out with her 8 times without so much as putting your hand on her waist? This kind of sends the signal that you only wanted to be friends. Was she being firm and serious when she said she is just a friend? Maybe you never made a move and now she just considers you a friend who she doesn't want to hook up with.
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