Marsh Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Hey there! I’m really confused and I could use some advice. So basically my boyfriend dumped me two weeks ago because he owns his own business and has the feeling he can’t give me the quality time I deserve and need. When he dumped me we both were crying and he hugged me and repeatedly kissed my forehead. Of course I made the typical mistake by begging him not to leave. And he said the cliché thing: I still want us to be friends. But since the day he dumped me he keeps on sending me emotional text messages. The content is always the same: he’s hurt so much because of our break up, he misses me, he wants to see me, he wants to hug me, he says he’s jealous because I go out a lot with my friends, he says he’s angry because there are probably guys out there who are already trying to flirt with me and go out with me, he says he likes me so much and that he just can’t stop contacting me but that he really can’t give me the quality time I need. I said to him that he has to leave me alone because I can’t be ‘just friends’ with him. But when I do that I receive even more messages saying that he can’t stand the fact never hearing or seeing me again. And yesterday when he heard of a friend that my window was broken he wanted to come to my place to fix it. What does this mean? Does he regret the break up? If so, then why doesn’t he just say so? Why doesn’t he just leave me alone so I can move on?
Philosoraptor Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Well set boundaries here. If you can't handle just being his friend then let him know that and cease all contact. Take care of yourself now. 1
Renard99 Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 As Philosoraptor says, reinforce the fact that you can't be friends as it's too painful for you. Remind him that it's his decision to leave and that missing you is something that he has to deal with as a direct result of that decision. After that, I'd simply ignore any messages sent (assuming you aren't already doing that) 1
JDPT Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 He is out of his mind, he dumps you and then bombards you with emotional texts? I can only suggest to start NC immediately. I think you are somewhat determined on moving on, it's a matter of solidifying those intentions and moving full force with them. Start NC, he will eventually get tired of sending you these messaging that only end up leaving you more emotionally confused and hurt.
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