Montana 1968 Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 My ex and I have recently got back into contact with each other. He finished our LDR. During one of our recent conversations he told me that he was " Still in love with me and thinks about me all the time"... I then replied by saying "Do you want me more than just a friend then", and he said "Yes, I do", I asked him "In what way do you want me in your life then ?" And he said "God, I'm so confused.... I don't know" !!!! I just needed to know where I stood. He wants to see me when I go home next... because he wanted to say sorry for hurting me when he finished with me. He said he couldn't stand not ever seeing me again. He hasn't contacted me in a few days since that last conversation. I'd be interested in your views please guys ?
Philosoraptor Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 So he was testing if you are still available and wants to relieve his own guilt? That's all I see here.
unexpectedlyhere Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 I think you reacted well. He's probably confused and struggling to understand what he feels. He has stated he wants you as more than just a friend, but then has not acted on it. I would suggest that you reply every attempt of his to say things like "But I don't want to lose you forever", with, basically "We'll see, it may happen if that's what's necessary to my healing, what you need to work out now is whether you want the same future with me you used to want, or not. That's the only thing I'm interested in hearing because that's what then will require some thinking on my part. Anything else is sort of irrelevant at this moment, because it won't apply until we're over each other, and that may take a while".
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