jerryh Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 8 weeks after the breakup and three full weeks of NC, and we ran into each other, just how i predicted in a nightclub. I said hi with a big smile and she was very shy and seemed nervous. that was that, we were dancing all night but not together but we kept touching of each other and it seemed everywhere one was, the other was there too. i went home and an hour later she texts saying sorry for being awkward and how am i? this the girl who wanted NC with me. i feel terrible now and back to the very start, my feelings are all hitting the fore front again.
Author jerryh Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 we text for a bit like old times but i stopped now and realized how stupid i was being. anyone have anything on all this? would really like to hear opinions.
Confused_Soul_23 Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 There are no options. You should just let her initiate any form of contact and play it cool. If she thinks your not bothered then she will chase you. If you show her you still care then she will pull away. You must know this from reading other threads. If she does text you don't reply unless its anything meaningful. I.e I want you back I made a mistake. Trust me her seeing you will be playing on her mind too. It will bring back old memories etc and if you have been looking after yourself I.e new haircut clothes and gym etc then she will of noticed these things. If you were the same clingy person you were before when you saw her it will just reassure her she made the right decision. The fact that you were speaking and that she has texts you means she probably does still care. Just take a step back do all of the above and if it's meant to be she will come back to you. In the meantime go out have fun and see other girls.
Author jerryh Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 yup your right, im just going to ignore her for now. I realized how stupid i was texting her so got short with her and then just stopped texting back, it was really setting me back. Yes i have lost weight, arms getting bigger, was wearing stuff i never wore with her which were actually nice and had a brand new haricut to boot haha. i was very confident on the dance floor and was even chatting to a few girls. Literally danced right beside her didnt say a word and went off dancing with other girls. Im just gonna stay back now and see i suppose.
Author jerryh Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 Wow things are getting weird. Right five years ago just before i went out with my ex, i was meant to get with this other girl. It just didnt happen at the time, we both really wanted it. So for the last five years we were best friends for four and then the last year we havent talked. My friends, my family, everyone always thought i should have been with her because she was much better suited to me and treated me very well. Anyways i went out again friday night, and after a year who do i see? this girl, the night after i saw my ex, and we both just felt it, we got interrupted at that stage by mutual friends and just continued to talk, stare and hug all night. We texted load of drunk ramblings to each other for 3 or 4 hours and then stopped. I genuinely dont know whats going on, maybe id like to try, but i kind of want to be single , i dont know just wanted to write it down just thought it would help.
Author jerryh Posted August 12, 2013 Author Posted August 12, 2013 sorry could use an opinion on everything
Simon Phoenix Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 sorry could use an opinion on everything Chat up the new/old girl. See where it goes. Seems pretty straightforward.
The Situation Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 There are no options. You should just let her initiate any form of contact and play it cool. If she thinks your not bothered then she will chase you. If you show her you still care then she will pull away. You must know this from reading other threads. If she does text you don't reply unless its anything meaningful. I.e I want you back I made a mistake. This bit has finally calmed me down this evening, thanks! I've been on the edge of texting the ex, telling her I miss her, but that'd be showing my inability to be by myself. My own insecurities messed everything up before, so why would she want a grovelling text? (Sorry to interrupt the thread!)
Author jerryh Posted August 12, 2013 Author Posted August 12, 2013 Chat up the new/old girl. See where it goes. Seems pretty straightforward. Yes sorry your right, things seem to be going good, but dont know at this moment. This bit has finally calmed me down this evening, thanks! I've been on the edge of texting the ex, telling her I miss her, but that'd be showing my inability to be by myself. My own insecurities messed everything up before, so why would she want a grovelling text? (Sorry to interrupt the thread!) I did the same as you mate best off giving plenty of space, its the only chance we have. No bother at all, thread here to help everyone I just found out my ex hitched a taxi ride back with a good friend of mine (Female) with one of her friends back to hers Thursday night, the night i met her. She was asking about me and my friend said i seemed quiet tonight and bit out of sorts. so that explains the text from the ex when she got out of the taxi! is the fact she knows im hurting the fact why she contacts once in a while to keep me on that string? or does she care?
Simon Phoenix Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 Yes sorry your right, things seem to be going good, but dont know at this moment. I did the same as you mate best off giving plenty of space, its the only chance we have. No bother at all, thread here to help everyone I just found out my ex hitched a taxi ride back with a good friend of mine (Female) with one of her friends back to hers Thursday night, the night i met her. She was asking about me and my friend said i seemed quiet tonight and bit out of sorts. so that explains the text from the ex when she got out of the taxi! is the fact she knows im hurting the fact why she contacts once in a while to keep me on that string? or does she care? jerry, stop focusing on the damn ex. You got another girl showing interest, give that a proper chance. There could be a variety of reasons why your ex texted you. No one knows and it's pointless to try to figure it out. Let her be and stop trying to solve riddles. Trying to figure out what another person is thinking is a worthless enterprise. Move forward. Stop looking back.
Author jerryh Posted August 12, 2013 Author Posted August 12, 2013 jerry, stop focusing on the damn ex. You got another girl showing interest, give that a proper chance. There could be a variety of reasons why your ex texted you. No one knows and it's pointless to try to figure it out. Let her be and stop trying to solve riddles. Trying to figure out what another person is thinking is a worthless enterprise. Move forward. Stop looking back. Yup your right just every time i seem to be moving on and be happy she tries to come back and ruin it without wanting to come back. This other girl is lovely but i dont know if its gonna work.
Simon Phoenix Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Yup your right just every time i seem to be moving on and be happy she tries to come back and ruin it without wanting to come back. This other girl is lovely but i dont know if its gonna work. She's not trying to ruin anything. You are letting her ruin it by overanalyzing it. And you have no clue about the other girl unless you give it a real shot.
Author jerryh Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 Yup i suppose, beginning to resent her. yes i know she is just out of a long term relationship too but might take the plunge and ask for a date!
Author jerryh Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 Sorry about all the rants, was pretty angry and confused the last few days!
Author jerryh Posted August 15, 2013 Author Posted August 15, 2013 i didnt contact the other girl and am going to try remain single until the new year. I started my first day at work today in my job and i loved it, at the end i helped a girl carry her bag which she was struggling with at the train station, we chatted for a bit, flirted and got her number so happy out!
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