VioletBlue Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 I'll try to keep this shortish... I have a 10 month old baby with my ex. He had asked me out numerous times over the years but I was not interested. Then one day I said yes. We were not together long before I got pregnant, we both agreed to have the baby... I'm in my 30's he is in his 40's and this is both our first child. I had a traumatic birth, he was great support during that time. Then when the baby was 6 weeks old I found out he had been seeing someone else... he always denied I was pregnant when it started, but I found out a few months ago that it started half way through my pregnancy. I ended up hospitalised with post natal depression for 3 weeks. I seriously wanted to die. He went missing. No one knew where he was. When I got home he contacted me and came over almost crying saying he wanted the baby and me back. But he was still with this other woman. Told me she was extremely manipulative, game playing and controlling. She emailed me asking what he had said. I lost it when I replied and it ended up being an email war. He and her were on and off (he has always lived with his mother and never had a secure relationship)... I was trying to get a trusting relationship between him and his son but he would make excuses, come around and want sexual favours... then end up back with the woman. He has became the polar opposite of his normal outgoing, positive, lovely guy. He has gotten verbally abusive, in my face. Calling me names telling me he hates me. She has been telling him that I've been harassing her. This has turned him completely against me. She has recently been telling his family that I'm doing and saying things that are untrue. They have both lied so much, both cheated on each other. We went through lawyers etc to set up parental access. I have recently let him take the baby for an hour a week over her house to stop all the garbage that is being said. Early days. However, he has bought her what looks to be an engagement ring. And I'm disgusted... He owes money in child support (it's in collection) and it's just the fact that he maintained he's appearing to be settling with her and her kids. Like his son isn't good enough! And the fact that she controls everything, he can't go out, he's given up his social life, doesn't see his family at all, she yells out instructions to him when he's been on the phone discussing our baby, answers for him when people ask him questions, his lawyer even told me he has had to tell her to keep out of things... it's like he's brainwashed and just lets her lead him around like he's a puppet. I know good riddance... but there's that part of me that hurts!
Philosoraptor Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Sounds like he is garbage. Take your focus off of your ex and the crappy situation he has gotten himself in, and put it on your adorable son. Your son has one wonderful parent who takes good care of him. Take solace in that fact.
Author VioletBlue Posted August 10, 2013 Author Posted August 10, 2013 Thank you! That's exactly what keeps me going And my baby is gorgeous!
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