Chris715 Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 I saw her posting things tonight about her hanging out with some guy on Facebook, god that hurt. It was almost a moment of clarity. She was done, past me, over me, whatever you want to call it, and it hurts like a bitch. I know that's what needed to be done and probably should have been done a long time ago, but wow was that hard. Isn't making me feel good tonight that's for sure. I've been hung up on this girl for over 7 months now since we broke up and it's pretty clear she's been over me for at least 5. Makes me feel like a huge loser. Can't move on, can't meet anyone else, I feel screwed. 2
reddragon588 Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 I saw her posting things tonight about her hanging out with some guy on Facebook, god that hurt. It was almost a moment of clarity. She was done, past me, over me, whatever you want to call it, and it hurts like a bitch. I know that's what needed to be done and probably should have been done a long time ago, but wow was that hard. Isn't making me feel good tonight that's for sure. I've been hung up on this girl for over 7 months now since we broke up and it's pretty clear she's been over me for at least 5. Makes me feel like a huge loser. Can't move on, can't meet anyone else, I feel screwed. Your last paragraph directly contradicts your first two! You are moving on, you're doing all the right things and you just took a huge step forward! One that I am still struggling to make myself. Good for you! 1
chinacat sunflower Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 I know how you feel, I've been caught up on my ex for months and months. He has moved on, in another relationship with a gorgeous women. It sucks. Everyday is a step forward. Everyone heals at a different pace, all you can do is keep on trucking. Deleting her was for the best. My ex deleted me a couple of months after we split. I kinda wish he would have just blocked me so I couldn't see him at all. Do whatever you gotta do to keep your mind off of her and to keep yourself happy. Perhaps I should take my own advice. Hope you feel better soon. 1
Author Chris715 Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 Woke up this morning still feeling terrible. Had a bunch of random dreams last night where she had absolutely no interest in me... pretty fitting. I feel like a complete loser right now, still hung up on this after like 7 months where it was already over. I haven't been able to move on, haven't been able meet anyone new, and it feels like I won't. I'm just sharing my thoughts and venting at this point, not much else to say. Feeling a dull, aching sadness today that comes from being tired of this dragging on for 7 months and acknowledging that the chasing after her, the hopes that she's coming back, it's all dead and over. Anyway, thanks for listening guys. 2
Own Worst Enemy Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 because you loved her very deeply? because you are capable of giving all that to some girl? because you had true, genuine emotions? yes, you shouldn't stay living in the past, but don't beat yourself up for still caring. just remember that it was a reflection of how deeply you are capable of feeling, and one day you will feel like that again. try to look at it that way, and stop hating on yourself. there will always be moments when it suuuuuucks, but there will also be moments when you can see a bit of light. eventually the two will swap, and the sucky bits will get further and further apart. 4
singme2sleep Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 That was me back in April. I cried for 3 months over my ex and then found out through Facebook a few days after I reached out by sending him a birthday card, that he was seeing someone else! He even made his profile picture her and him. That stung like 10,000 bees but it was also a wake up call. From that point on my tears started to lessen and eventually I became stronger. So maybe it's what you needed to see to realize you need to focus on YOU and healing your heart. A person doesn't need anyone who doesn't need them! 3
reddragon588 Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Some days you are the dog, some days you are the fire hydrant! Don't feel bad for feeling bad- it's natural and it takes everyone different amounts of time to heal! To give a sports metaphor, some athletes have their careers ended by broken legs, others are back in a few weeks. Emotional injuries heal differently just like physical ones. Be happy that you are taking the right steps. Keep up the actions you are taking to move forward and your emotions will eventually catch up. 2
Chi townD Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 The reason you feel like hell right now and that you've never been able to move on is because of that damn facebook page. You've always had a link to her through that. You've always had a way to follow what's going on in her life. Now, you've FINALLY severed that link. But, do one even better. You need to Block her. Not just friend her. BLOCK her! Now, since you've de-friended her for the last few days, she hasn't reached out to you to find out why. Do you know why? Because she hasn't even noticed yet!! With that in mind, kinda tells you where you stand. That should be motivation enough to start healing and leading a damn good life! Time to heal and move on, dude. 1
cruelworld Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 i know that`s hard.it the same problem i have.i cant block my ex on fb.although he unfriended me i check out his profile twice a day.i cant stop looking at his pictures and statuses. im gonna do it this week but i dont dare it. good for you you could do this finally .congratulation! 1
xanitus Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 this is EXACTLY the reason I deleted her straight away. Think how awful I would feel if I see her with another guy? It's WORSE than getting dumped. Take control back.
supaflyz Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Yup you need to block her because even if you delete her you may be tempted to search for her. Sometimes its weird you are searching for another friend but if their name starts with the same few letters then your ex would pop up. That happen to me a few times. Then I just blocked her. At some point you have to save your own dignity. She isn't everything. I know at one point she was your everything, but she chose to walk out. I know you love her, and it is hard to deal with. You must overcome the obstacles that lie a head of of you. The reason you feel like hell right now and that you've never been able to move on is because of that damn facebook page. You've always had a link to her through that. You've always had a way to follow what's going on in her life. Now, you've FINALLY severed that link. But, do one even better. You need to Block her. Not just friend her. BLOCK her! Now, since you've de-friended her for the last few days, she hasn't reached out to you to find out why. Do you know why? Because she hasn't even noticed yet!! With that in mind, kinda tells you where you stand. That should be motivation enough to start healing and leading a damn good life! Time to heal and move on, dude. 1
Author Chris715 Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 Blocking her would probably be a good idea, as would deleting her number from my phone and going NC with her. Believe me, I've tried all these things and as you guys probably know, easier said than done because like you all have said, she was my everything at one point and yes I still do love her. Maybe I'll block her and then remove her from my phone eventually... One step at a time I guess.
HuffmanMontana Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 You will start to feel better soon. I just blocked my ex last week after 7 months and her breadcrumbs. Feels great to not walk on eggshells online or having her popup at random times. At least her breadcrumbs have dropped from weekly to every three weeks. I have one more obligation to take care of and then the cord will be forever severed and she will have no more excuses to contact me.
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