xsanex Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 This is my second post since joining this site. After 10 years of being together she left me in June. At the start of the breakup, she made it sound as though it would be a brief break (we lived together). Because of my countless texts over the past 2 months, it looks as though she isn't coming back. I am currently on day 8 of NC and have no desire to break it. She has not tried to contact me either. Just wondering what anyone's thoughts/advice are on this. She is fully aware that I want her back...
JDPT Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 What is it exactly that you are regretting? What lead to the break up? In the meantime, remain NC and start accepting the fact that she might just be gone for ever. 1
Author xsanex Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 Me acting like a jerk and having a controlling attitude at times. All of these things I have reflected on and I honest to God feel I have overcome. I know I am a different person now but she doesn't. It's a shame that I blew her phone up. Those are my regrets..
Author xsanex Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 Thank you both for replying. I guess the reason I am struggling to move on is 1) we were together for so long and 2) we own a house together. She has moved out and the house is for sale. She has parents that she moved in with and I have to stay here because I must pay the mortgage and couldn't afford rent elsewhere until the house sells. Living here and seeing her all over the place (everything in this house that's at all decorative was her doing) kills me. If I took everything down, the place would be empty!!
Author xsanex Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 I try to. I work A LOT and keep hoping that each potential buyer becomes...well...the next owner of the house. Even lowered the asking price to speed up the process. I just wanna get outta here, get my own place and start living something I haven't had in 15 years, the single life! 3
Lost_Soul_86 Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 I know what your going through Xsanex, im 6 months out of a 9 year relationship (im 27) we also shared a house, dog, bank account the hole 9 yards. Our story's are pretty much spot on except im female. When he first broke up with me all that consumed me was guilt for the way i sometimes treated him and the nasty things i would say! I would have given my right arm to go back in time and change everything but the sad fact is we cant, whats done is done you can only learn from your mistakes and try not to make the same ones in your future relationships. The thing you have to remember is your not the only one in the relationship that stuffed up, at times like these its hard to see any negatives in the other person, i know now i see things that he did wrong in the relationship, and it actually isn't ALL my fault. Life moves on, i know it's not easy and its a hell of a long time to throw away but don't waste your time consumed in negative thoughts, i did exactly that and it didn't get me anywhere other than producing enough tears to fill a pool. Life's to short and if its meant to be it WILL come back. I wish you all the best in life and i hope happiness isn't too far away for you. 1
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