SurSilva Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Hi, First time posting here, hope someone might have some advice. I'm about to go through a divorce and I'm wondering if anyone has had any luck with collaborative divorce? I haven't met anyone who has tried it. Any advice. Does it work? Is it better? I've done some research on the web and even found some places that do it in my area, but I'm not sure.
New User Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 It sounds like another term for an amicable divorce. From what I can tell all it really means is that you iron out the details of your settlement, put it on paper, both sign it and turn it in to the court. The judge then pretty much rubber stamps it. This is essentially how my divorce was handled.
vla1120 Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 This is how my husband and I are divorcing. I wrote up an agreement, we're both reviewing it, making changes we want. Once we are in full agreement, we take it to our local "divorce center" and file. It saves on lawyer fees for both parties. Since I am asking for the divorce and am the main breadwinner, I'm making a few concessions in the agreement, like offering to pay off his car and some of his bills so he has more disposable income available. Just make sure you include EVERYTHING in the agreement - support, payment of joint bills, all the way down to who gets what household items. Make sure the agreement is fair for both parties and neither feels coerced into accepting an agreement with which they do not feel comfortable. I have heard that the judge can reject an agreement if it looks fishy to him/her. It really does have to be amicable to work.
New User Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 This is how my husband and I are divorcing. I wrote up an agreement, we're both reviewing it, making changes we want. Once we are in full agreement, we take it to our local "divorce center" and file. It saves on lawyer fees for both parties. Since I am asking for the divorce and am the main breadwinner, I'm making a few concessions in the agreement, like offering to pay off his car and some of his bills so he has more disposable income available. Just make sure you include EVERYTHING in the agreement - support, payment of joint bills, all the way down to who gets what household items. Make sure the agreement is fair for both parties and neither feels coerced into accepting an agreement with which they do not feel comfortable. I have heard that the judge can reject an agreement if it looks fishy to him/her. It really does have to be amicable to work. Gotta stress this. Don't ever assume that the other party is going to be reasonable or that you can "work out the details" later. I lost just about everything I had that had any sentimental value simply because Crazy knew she could get away with it and knew it would hurt me.
73Fras Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 We are also doing this - Its much less stressful and way more affordable - but remember everything Good Luck
Gatz123 Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 There are three types of divorces you can choose from... mediation, collaboration, or litigation. In mediation you have one party handling both of you. They can suggest things but you must work with each other to hammer out the final contract. Collaboration, you both have separate lawyers representing you, but you agree to not litigate and to work together. Last one is self explanatory.
Misadventure Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 I was just educated on this Friday...ONLY if both parties pretty much already agree on everything and it is amicable is this the best solution. Downside, if this does not work, you both have to get new lawyers, they can't continue on to be your divorce lawyers.
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