Regretfulone Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Hello. Long time reader, 1st time poster. About me: 35 years old, divorced, dating a woman age 33. We both have kids. We are in a committed relationship of 6 months. We are in love, and have plans for a future together. Last Sunday was her daughter's birthday. As she was getting ready for the party, we started talking about British people on TV, and she mentioned that 2 years ago she had a penpal from England who came to visit her for a weekend while on vacation, and they had sex. She had mentioned a penpal before, but I didn't know they were more than friends. She told me they were somewhat dating long distance, and when they finally met in person, they felt the chemistry. After he went back, he met someone else, and they stopped corresponding. For some reason I got really jealous, and started asking details. She was calm and answer it all... they had sex 2 times, he was 18 years older than she, he had bad teeth. But I was totally expecting an old geezer to be horrible in bed, but she said it was "normal....nice". I got upset, and she told me maybe I should not attend the party. I went home, and she asked to get together later. I got home, took my anti-anxiety medication, then started feeling sick...and even more upset. Up until now, our relationship was perfect...no argument... just beautiful happiness. I picked up my phone, and texted her: "I'm disgusted... I don't think we are a good match....we shouldn't see each other anymore." Then I fainted. I woke up 14 minutes later, and panicked. WHAT HAVE I DONE????! I saw my phone. She texted back, "I am shocked....I can't believe you are doing this..." I immediately apologized and told her I didn't mean it... I beg her to please forgive me. Then I realized I accidentally overdosed on my medication because it came in a different form. I took 8x the prescribed dose!!! It may have contributed to my impulsive breakup over text. I begged to see her later that night, and she agreed. She was mad. She had to hold back tears for 5 hours while her daughter was having a birthday party. I felt horrible. She said I abandoned her. I apologized to no end...I begged that it was a mistake...i got jealous and shouldn't have asked for any details. She told me she still loves me very much, but is now worried that I would abandon her again. The next morning I made an appointment to my therapist to help me with my impulsive behavior and jealousy. I have never acted like this in front of her before...ever. She's happy that I'm taking steps to resolve the problem, but she has been sad and sick all week because of me. Ladies, can you forgive a guy who messed up, accidentally broke up with you for 14 minutes, and is taking every step possible (therapy) to make things right?
SantistaUSA Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Well I'm not a lady but one thing I can tell you, NEVER EVER ask for details from you SO experiences!!! 1
Brunettie Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 If you explained to her what happened, and what happened with your medicine, yes. Just be more careful and watch your dosage next time. 1
Author Regretfulone Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 she says she forgives me, and still wants to be with me. But she suggests we slow things down and concentrate on what we have now, instead of thinking about marriage and future. She feels im subconsciously freaked out about the future that's why im trying to find faults in this relationship. I don't know if that's the case, but I've been nervous all week. I feel scared that she is reconsidering me altogether or regretting falling in love with me.
Treasa Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 I've sort of been in her situation, and it really sucks. The fact is, before you took the medication you were upset enough that she asked you to leave. I think you really need to seek counseling to find out why you're reacting this strongly to something like this. As someone who used to have incredibly bad anxiety for years, and still has it flare up from time to time, I think you'll find that the source of both problems is the same. Give her all the time and space she needs.
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