Luccinar Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 (edited) Hi there, I am having a hard time right now and experiencing rather severe anxiety, I would greatly appreciate some advice or help from anyone really. I broke up with my boyfriend recently because I was unhappy, I don't want to go into details because it was so long and complicated but basically I felt as though he didn't love me. Now we are over and haven't had contact for a few days, I still feel unhappy and deeply lost. I have really bad anxiety and feel panicky and restless and basically like ill never be happy again. I'm due to leave the country soon and am not even excited about it. He and I had a lot of travel plans and its hard to realise ill be by myself now. The thing is, I don't feel heart broken, I would like him to text me but I know that there is nothing he can say to make me feel better or want to try again so the thought of him actually contacting me makes me feel sick. I know we're over, I don't really feel that much emotion attached to our breakup, I can still listen to all our music without breaking down and basically just know it was somewhat the right thing. I know he needs time alone and I know I'll never commit to someone who can't prove they love me. But why am I unhappy? It's like I just hate my life, feel no joy or excitement for the future or care about anything. I can't even be bothered about getting out of bed and this god awful anxiety nawing at me. I'm only 22 I don't want to be one of those people depressed for no reason with no purpose in life. I don't know what advice anyone could possibly give me...I guess I'm just hoping there is a logical reason behind this and it will pass. If I felt heartbroken I would understand better but the fact that I'm not...and I know I made the right decision? But at the same time I just don't understand. I'm scared that I was only unhappy in our relationship because I'm an unhappy person looking for flaws in things all the time. I really feel crazy right now and like I can't trust myself. I'm a fairly confidant and outgoing person, I remember I used to be happy. Any advice would be appreciated I guess I should add that we lived together from the day we met and due to circumstances spent every minute of every day together since then. he never didn't want a relationship to begin with but that eventually I grew on him. But I held so much resentment towards him for the beginning of our relationship that I guess I just lost my feelings Edited August 8, 2013 by Luccinar More info added
JDPT Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 I quiet honestly believe that you are disregarding and downplaying your emotions and perhaps numbing yourself in the process. Yes you are sad, and yes you are heartbroken otherwise you wouldn't feel so miserable and that's perfectly normal when you go through a grieving process which is what you are currently going through with the break up. Analyze and internalize why you aren't happy and you will see that your analysis will have a direct correlation with the break up. Allow yourself to go through the grieving process, you will have your ups and downs and that's perfectly fine. Find healthy ways to cope with feeling unhappy and know that in time things will get better. I wish you the best.
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