Marblex3 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Simply stated in my title of this post. I am 28, he was 28, almost 29. We broke up because I had jealousy and had self esteem issues and he had anger and alcohol issues. We are both seeking help for our issues now. We broke up a month ago but have been in contact at least once a week whether it be because we miss each other or because we lived together and had to get things taken care of. He wants to be with me but is scared. I feel the same way. There are days when I am strong and days when I feel awful. We were talking about marriage and looking at rings and were starting to look at houses when we broke up. It just got to be too much with out individual issues getting in the way of our happiness. Today is an awful day. It's hard not being able to talk to me best friend anymore and not having him at home when I get there. I know that we need this time to work on ourselves as individuals, I really do believe we need that space, but it's damn hard. I'm talking to friends, keeping myself busy, been running errands all day, but it isn't making it easier, everything I do I somehow think of him. I guess I just don't know what to do to make it feel easier or to feel just ok, so I thought maybe venting and some feedback would help. Thanks for taking time to read my ventings!
JDPT Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 My understanding is that there are issues to be addressed prior to even contemplating the thought of a relationship with anyone. It is extremely difficult to carry on a relationship when both partners bring unresolved issues to the relationship. The thought of marriage and looking at real estate was quiet honestly premature. I can suggest to focus on yourself and perhaps seek professional assistance to help you in dealing with your issues and improving yourself. You will have your ups and downs and that's perfectly fine , be strong during those weak moments, reroute your thoughts and know that you are on your way to recovery.
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