Should I break up?

[IAmRobot]

Long story short my gf gets really insecure and jealous of my ex and friends and then she starts acting a bit cold and that makes me insecure in turn, because I just feel her distant at points.

I do everything to reassure her that I want her and her only, and she always thanks me for it.

 

The good times are really really good, but then the bad times... I'm not sure.

 

Last week I caught her going through my cell (was on her period). She started crying about this txt a female friend of mine had send me and i had replied with "you've disappeared. Did you get a jealous bf or something?" I told her she should ask before going through my stuff. It wasn't meant badly and it was just a joke and told her I'd be more careful next time. She also found no other flaw except of this in my phone (literally went through all of it).

 

The last few days she was getting insecure again, just because I didn't text her back for some hours. Next thing I know she had left her facebook open on my pc at her ex's profile. Curiosity got the best of me and I looked through her search log. Turns out she had been viewing him almost daily together with his new gf.

 

I asked her if she had been thinking about her ex lately, even explaining that it would be perfectly normal if she had. SHE DENIED. And said that she literally feels nothing about her ex. She really seemed genuine when she told me this. It wasn't like she was trying to evade the subject.

 

I'm confused... Should I break up with her? It's obvious that she had been thinking about him at least been curious, but she lied to me.... and lies are a NO NO

[KatZee]

Her still being into her ex, or not into her ex are the least of your problems right now.

 

Your girlfriend lacks clear boundaries, she thinks it's perfectly acceptable to put her hands all over your property, and extensively monitor your property, she also is irrationally jealous, possessive, controlling, emotionally manipulative, clingy, and needy.

 

How long have you been with her? These problems will only get worse as time goes on, not better.

 

I'm also really not quite sure why you felt the need to include "(on her period)" when you mentioned she went through your phone. That's not an excuse for her behavior, nor is it something to blame her behavior on. This is who she is, period or not.

[TaraMaiden]

What the hell is this, Beverly Hills 90210??

 

How much drama do you want?

 

Insecurity and double standards? Nice double whammy.....

 

Call her out on it.

if she can check your phone, you could demand to check her FB account....

 

but really.

How hard do you really want to have to work at this?

it won't improve without some kind of professional input or assistance....

[iKING]

Let it go, this is child's play relatively speaking.

[New User]

You two don't sound healthy for one another. This is starting to sound more and more like one of those relationships where the couple mistakes chaos for passion. You're jealous of her boss, she's jealous of every female on the planet. I can't help but think that the boundary issues will worsen as the relationship progresses.

[TaraMaiden]

(Sorry.... where did you get that he's 'jealous of her boss'....?)

[New User]

(Sorry.... where did you get that he's 'jealous of her boss'....?)

 

 

Different thread.

[TaraMaiden]

Ah.Sorry.

Thanks.

it pays to do some 'background checking'. Thanks.

[sdraw108]

Browsing through someone's phone without their knowledge and permission is a massive breach of privacy and trust. Facebook stalking her ex is just icing on the cake.