Knoxpwns Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Having your life together = emotional and financial stability
El Brujo Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Having your life together (aka having your s. together) means you have no debts, your bills are paid, no ex to bug you, you're done with school, you have no criminal record and nobody's trying to drag you into court, you have a steady job with benefits, and you have your living space totally clean and organized. It doesn't necessarily mean you own your own house and car, but if you do, they're paid off. And it means you don't have any substance abuse issues or psychological hang-ups, and you're not sneaking out for sex. It also means you're intimidating as hell to people who don't have THEIR lives together, as I learned when I tried speed dating.
pink_sugar Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Having your life together (aka having your s. together) means you have no debts, your bills are paid, no ex to bug you, you're done with school, you have no criminal record and nobody's trying to drag you into court, you have a steady job with benefits, and you have your living space totally clean and organized. It doesn't necessarily mean you own your own house and car, but if you do, they're paid off. And it means you don't have any substance abuse issues or psychological hang-ups, and you're not sneaking out for sex. It also means you're intimidating as hell to people who don't have THEIR lives together, as I learned when I tried speed dating. Very few people have no debts these days and I'd say more than half of individuals with a fairly new car are making payments unless they make a good salary. I'd say it's more along the lines of "having your debts under control" and knowing how to manage your money properly. 1
El Brujo Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Very few people have no debts these days and I'd say more than half of individuals with a fairly new car are making payments unless they make a good salary. I'd say it's more along the lines of "having your debts under control" and knowing how to manage your money properly. Like I said, there's more to it than just money. There are screwed-up people who handle money better than many of us.
It's Just Me Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 I equate "having your life together" with "having your sh*t together." It's not just about money, it's about attitude. To me, this means living and behaving like a grownup: having a job (or actively looking for one), paying your own bills, living in your own home/apartment, and being a decent, contributing member of society. I happen to have my life together, and expect the same of a mate. The opposite would be a very recently separated guy, looking to sow his wild oats, still behaving like a teenager, in debt up to his eyeballs with no plans to fix anything. A child, really. Or someone who has given up and just wants an escape from reality. The man I met two years ago was an unemployed mechanic (he had been let go from GM). Red flag? Yes, at first - until I could see that he was pounding the pavement looking for permanent work, like a grown-up person would do. He was doing long hours with side jobs (as a mechanic, and home renovations) to make ends meet, and drove a ****box of a car (that he could easily fix himself), just so he could get around. Even with all of that, he had been smart enough to stay debt-free by trimming back on expenses. He eventually found a dealership job which didn't pay well, but it was steady. A few months later he was offered work with the local transit authority to fix buses - a job he had applied for 18 months earlier. He's now got a pension, a union salary, full-time work, and no debts. He recently treated himself to a big old, brand-new Chevy truck, and he earned it. And he can still fix it himself. 2
smile1983 Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 Wow, I guess I do not have my life together yet, maybe by the time I'm forty, or thirty-five. *fixing to turn thirty in about 12 days*
Author napy666 Posted August 10, 2013 Author Posted August 10, 2013 I don't have a credit card so I'm not in debt, I didn't go to college so no debt there. I am trying to find a job and get my driver's license. But I do keep house clean, laundry, loyal, honest, faithful person in a relationship, I know how to save my money, among other things.
nescafe1982 Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 Ha. I don't think I have my **** together either acc. to these definitions. Sure I have a PhD at 30, but these days that means debt up-to-there and more often than not underemployed (I have work for precisely one year out, but no farther). I would define "having your life together" with being a responsible adult, being mature, and being financially sovereign. But it's rare to have it completely together, I guess.
El Brujo Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 I'm not there yet, but I've been fixing up the inside of my house so it won't look like a dump that the Grapes of Wrath people wouldn't want to live in. No woman wants to meet a man if his house looks like a tornado hit it. FWIW, I just finished writing the revised edition of my sci-fi novel... my musician friend suggested a way to market it that I think will work, and I have another book lined up to write after that... it will be interesting to see if women will be attracted to an author who did all of his own home construction and has no debts. I would have gone broke if I would have hired someone else to do it.
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