emva07 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Disclaimer: I know that it wasn't my fault, I just want to know why he would blame me? Since the beginning he cheated on me, so of course that caused fights, trust issues, jealousy. He always turned the fight into me being crazy and histerical. He never did any wrong, it was all me. I even went through phases where he was an ******* to me and I said nothing so he wouldn't have an excuse to say I was crazy. So I just took it in silence. So after 3 years of on and off relationship (I'd always break it off but he'd come crawling back saying i was the woman of his dreams etc etc) because he was an unromantic ******* who never even bought me flowers or told me he loved me, i finally realized, I can't keep doing this to myself. This guy doesn't love me so oh well, keep it moving girl. So i asked him, "why didn't you ever tell me you loved me?" he said "to be honest I can't say that to a girl who goes crazy and can't get over stupid ****....I just can't " I told him a person in love loves through the good and the bad, he said no, if a women misbehaves she can't ever be rewarded with those words. ARE YOU F**** KIDDING ME??? so let me get this straight, you can cheat, mistreat, and be an ass to a woman but the moment she complains about it she will never hear those words??? May i remind you that since the beginning YOU cheated on me, so you never even gave yourself an opportunity to love me. Now you're blaming ME that you could never love me???? Sounds like you don't even know how love works buddy. He has said before that he can't see a future with a woman, not just me but anyone, he is fine with the idea of being an old man and never commiting to anyone because women are problematic and he is trying to live a comfortable life. I just don't understand this mentality. What gives? I am the first girl he was in a long term relationship with (3 years and he is 32), through his actions I do think there was a degree of love there (deff more than all the casual dating he's done) but i guess his love for his freedom and not being nagged for still living the life of a guy in his early 20s is more important? idk. please give me insight on this type of man-boy. And why would he blame me when he knows very well I was a super good woman to him?
Virgil876 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 It's not your fault then, and get out of there now and have nothing to do with him.
stillafool Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Why did he blame me for never loving me? He did not love you. He was using that (the above) as his excuse. He was with you 3 years and never said it once? He is a cheater and will not change. You are right to move on as he will not change for you.
Author emva07 Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 He did not love you. He was using that (the above) as his excuse. He was with you 3 years and never said it once? He is a cheater and will not change. You are right to move on as he will not change for you. I guess my follow up question would be, not change for ME or for anyone?
Sneaky Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Honestly he's a liar and a cheater and just seems like a bad person. He won't change because that's who he is. You should be glad that it's over and try to stop thinking about him. I hope things improve for you.
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