Monodare1 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Hi all As per my previous posts, I've been separated now almost 2 months and have a little boy of 2. I've felt pretty low for ages and to be honest my marriage was over long before it came to separation. There was no cheating or dodgy business by either party, thing just fizzled out. I live for my little boy and only get to see him once a week either on a Friday through to Saturday or Saturday through to Sunday because I live a fair distance away and can't drive and am currently living with my elderly father until such times as I can get off the joint mortgage with the eventual ex wife. I have felt pretty down about my lot but am trying to be positive and am spending my now abundant spare time working out and trying to get back in shape. I have a good support network of friends and colleagues but im missing the fun in my life. I need some fun to lighten my mood and like all you women out there I cannot live by bread alone, I miss the emotional and physical fun of being intimate. I can't cope with a long term relationship just now but would like a bit of fun, you know, the flirting, the thrill of the chase etc. I know what my priorities are and I am and will be dealing with them, but I don't want my life to be all doom and gloom. Am I wrong in having those feelings? Is it because I was in a failing relationship for too long? Towards the end, there wasn't much in the way of intimacy and its something I'm craving for. Is that wrong of me? Opinions welcome
orionboxing Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Hi all As per my previous posts, I've been separated now almost 2 months and have a little boy of 2. I've felt pretty low for ages and to be honest my marriage was over long before it came to separation. There was no cheating or dodgy business by either party, thing just fizzled out. I live for my little boy and only get to see him once a week either on a Friday through to Saturday or Saturday through to Sunday because I live a fair distance away and can't drive and am currently living with my elderly father until such times as I can get off the joint mortgage with the eventual ex wife. I have felt pretty down about my lot but am trying to be positive and am spending my now abundant spare time working out and trying to get back in shape. I have a good support network of friends and colleagues but im missing the fun in my life. I need some fun to lighten my mood and like all you women out there I cannot live by bread alone, I miss the emotional and physical fun of being intimate. I can't cope with a long term relationship just now but would like a bit of fun, you know, the flirting, the thrill of the chase etc. I know what my priorities are and I am and will be dealing with them, but I don't want my life to be all doom and gloom. Am I wrong in having those feelings? Is it because I was in a failing relationship for too long? Towards the end, there wasn't much in the way of intimacy and its something I'm craving for. Is that wrong of me? Opinions welcome It is not wrong of you to feel this way. If you missed the close personal connection or sex and intimacy, you start seeking that right away when it's been gone for so long. However, there are times (depending on the person) where that rebound relationship just doesn't feel right from the beginning. I jumped into an intimate relationship six months after my divorce was finalized and I quickly realized that I wasn't quite out of the fog emotionally to handle it. If you find yourself thinking "this feels awkward" then YOU ARE NOT READY.
Author Monodare1 Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 The trouble is, 6 months prior to meeting my wife 5 years ago, I came out of a 3 and a half year relationship with a woman I loved very much and who I had an amazing emotional and sexual compatibility with, it ended due to my inexperience in emotional matters and the fact that she had a kid that suffered with asbergers, Tourette's and OCD. I couldn't cope and the relationship ended. In hindsight I feel that the woman I eventually married was a rebound from that relationship, although I'm ashamed to admit it. I did love her, but if the love had been that strong between us, we wouldn't be in this position. Before the separation, I feel that the relationship was like a runaway train heading for a brick wall, I knew in my heart of hearts that it was inevitable that it was going to end, and that's the tragic part for my poor little boy. That breaks my heart. However, I feel that I need to keep my mood and spirits up and regain my confidence and rediscover myself and a bit of fun along the way with no commitments would surely help as long as any woman I meet along the way has the same outlook?
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