barbossa Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Is dating getting harder? Is it harder to meet people to date now than it was in the 2000's or 90's or earlier? is it due to technology obsession ? in the metro i barely meet eyes with any one anymore everyone stares at their smart phone. I think people think they have too many options so they are not willing to make a choice and settle. But that's just my opinion 1
BluEyeL Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Easier to date, harder get a long lasting relationship. Everyone has ADHD and too many options and distractions. In the past you were more likely to stick with your SO through difficulties, not as easy as 1,2,3 to go back on match.com and find the next flavor of the month. 10
white Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 I had immensely more success and a happier time of it a decade ago. But I was also a decade younger. And so were the ladies I pursued. 1
MrCastle Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Hooking up is probably easier in some respects. I think maintaining a long term exclusive relationship/getting married is like the three minute mile. 1
SantistaUSA Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Easier to date, harder get a long lasting relationship. Everyone has ADHD and too many options and distractions. In the past you were more likely to stick with your SO through difficulties, not as easy as 1,2,3 to go back on match.com and find the next flavor of the month. That says it all! I have no problem getting dates, very easy to get laid nowadays, but when it comes to LTR as soon as someone "better" comes along they start to doubt their love to you. A few months ago I started dating an old friend, we used to live together but never dated, known her for years, so two months of seeing each other I wanted to be exclusive cause I didn't want to screw it up, then she says that even though she doesn't want to see somebody else, she wants to be able to go on a date if someone asks her out, she wants to have the options in case something better comes along, so I said oh ok so I'm like plan B then? She's was like of course not! lol yeah right, so I've told her let's just stay friends, she didn't like that and now she barely talks to me, so kinda lost a friend for being honest and not trying to play games!
GI_Joy Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 A few months ago I started dating an old friend, we used to live together but never dated, known her for years, so two months of seeing each other I wanted to be exclusive cause I didn't want to screw it up, then she says that even though she doesn't want to see somebody else, she wants to be able to go on a date if someone asks her out, she wants to have the options in case something better comes along, so I said oh ok so I'm like plan B then? She's was like of course not! lol yeah right, so I've told her let's just stay friends, she didn't like that and now she barely talks to me, so kinda lost a friend for being honest and not trying to play games! Wow, that's really effed up! Good for you for standing your ground and not falling for that. You're nobody's "placeholder" or fall-back plan! 3
Treasa Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 I think its easier than ever so are most women. It isn't hard to go out on 5-8 dates a weeks if I want to. Granted I am just and average guy with an incredible sense of humor and being EXTREMELY modest helps. Even if I had half my skill set its not that hard if you have any confidence at all. Flatter them, walk up to the next woman you see and say, "I cant think of anyone I would rather spend the next zombie apocalypse with than you". If they don't laugh tell them you bet your friend $20 the zombie thing wouldn't work.....and thanks for helping you out. The zombie apocalypse thing would totally work on me. Dammit. Also, your posts would be easier to read if you wouldn't be so damn humble all the time. 4
sillyanswer Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Is dating getting harder? No. Digesting the overload of information about dating is a different story. 1
MomsSpaghetti Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Yes, dating is more difficult than it was 50 or 100 years ago. It's because modern America is a much more wealthy society and our culture has been inculcated with unrealistic expectations about romance. Men and women are financially independent and don't have any practical incentive to settle down until they hit age 30 or later. So they spend the ages of 15-30 looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right. Think about it. Suppose you're a guy who is 25 yrs old and you have a girlfriend your same age and she's decently attractive and you guys get along well. Might as well get married -- right? Wrong. Might as well keep her around but stay on the lookout for a more attractive woman. The only reason you might want to settle down with her is if you notice you're balding and so you better get hitched as you know you'll be more unattractive in a few years and thus less able to find a woman of equal or greater attractiveness and compatibility than your current girlfriend. Otherwise, as a guy, there's no reason to worry about settling until you're 35-ish. That's why dating is often thought of as a perverse game of musical chairs.
ascendotum Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 (edited) Wow, that's really effed up! Good for you for standing your ground and not falling for that. You're nobody's "placeholder" or fall-back plan! I agree. Actually I found it a little strange that she would be so up-front. You can say its tactless, but also honest. A real disappointment for the one on the receiving end of that statement, if they have serious feelings. Her I'll go with plan B for the time being, while being on the look out for plan A, I reckon this is so common these days, its just that your STR/FWB/'lets just see how it goes' partner does not tell you this. OLD is very much helping to fuel this imo + the fact there is a bigger pool of floating single & in & out of relationship people + people having more experiences so getting pickier. Edited August 8, 2013 by ascendotum 1
ThaWholigan Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 I'm only a young man, but it doesn't appear to be any more difficult than it may have been in the past.
nescafe1982 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 (edited) Maybe it's because you're getting older? No, really. That's not supposed to sound like a jab; the dating pool gets smaller and our opportunities to meet single and emotionally available people get fewer and more far between as we age. OLD makes up for some of that, but I think the overall trend is towards more difficulty meeting quality people. Edited August 8, 2013 by nescafe1982 grammar d'oh!
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