johmark Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Hey... Am in a relationship and am completely in love with her. I got an accident and broke my spine some time back. It's been awesome even after my injury and couldn't walk. Both of us are happy but I feel like I should break up with her. She has told me that she doesn't mind me being in a wheel chair and she loves me and I believe her but I didn't know if it'll work out between us. I had to take a break from school and do physiotherapy and rehab and I've fallen behind about on the school part... She'll be done with university before me and I don't know if am being proud but I'm scared of her working before because I think something might come up and we might end up fighting or for something to do with money me cause I don't want her to think am leeching of her and is hate Am scared her parents won't approve of me and basically I feel like life will get in the way and I think she'd be happier with someone who doesn't come with a much baggage as me and I don't know why but I really think that. I have some complications with getting kids but it's not impossible but when I took her it really ****ed her up... She cried and said how much she loves kids and how unfair it would be to me if she left me(meaning she was thinking of it) and she hasn't thought about life if I didn't get better... . After the rant she was fine but she might have had a point. I just think she'll be happier with someone else.... Am just looking for some advice about the whole thing ...
TaraMaiden Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 That's not your decision to make, it's hers. You can't break up with her based on what you believe she will benefit from. It's not your call. You're thinking of an awful lot of hurdles to put in your own way. Almost like you're intent on sabotaging the relationship. Quit doing that, it's not healthy. Are you in rehab to be able to walk again? 3
darkmoon Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 (edited) perhaps she really likes you a great deal, so perhaps you do not have a problem, good convos...srs Edited August 8, 2013 by darkmoon
New User Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 That's not your decision to make, it's hers. You can't break up with her based on what you believe she will benefit from. It's not your call. You're thinking of an awful lot of hurdles to put in your own way. Almost like you're intent on sabotaging the relationship. Quit doing that, it's not healthy. Are you in rehab to be able to walk again? Just wanted to emphasize these points. You're dealing with a really difficult issue and it's understandable that you have had your confidence rocked. If you want to end it for your own reasons that's one thing. Ending a relationship because you think that she'll benefit strikes me as a bad move. Yes, I suspect that you will face some significant challenges that other couples wouldn't. That doesn't mean that you should bale on her before they even come up. Nor would I worry about what people will think. As long as your relationship is satisfying to you and her, the opinions of others are meaningless.
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