Charym88 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 If both parties are using the no-contact rule at the same time, will that hinder results? Someone has to make the first move. I believe that my ex will come back and he may be using this rule on me as well as I am using it on him. First, I blocked his Facebook, then I forgot about email. He blocked me from his emails and told me about it. Then, the last time he was here with me, he said, "I will give it about 2 weeks." I asked him, "Two weeks for what?" He never responded to me, just ignored me so I think he may be distancing himself from me for a while.
Still Searching Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 You're looking at what NC is for all wrong. It's not a "game" or tactic to get an ex back, even though sometimes it does work that way. The intent is for you to heal, recover, and move on from the break-up. If you're using it to get him back, you're likely going to be severely disappointed when it doesn't happen, and you'll have prolonged your recovery time.
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 If both parties are using the no-contact rule at the same time, will that hinder results? Someone has to make the first move. I believe that my ex will come back and he may be using this rule on me as well as I am using it on him. First, I blocked his Facebook, then I forgot about email. He blocked me from his emails and told me about it. Then, the last time he was here with me, he said, "I will give it about 2 weeks." I asked him, "Two weeks for what?" He never responded to me, just ignored me so I think he may be distancing himself from me for a while. Results? What results are you hoping for? NC is not a tool for getting back with an ex. It is for you (and him) to move on when the RS is over. Period...
Author Charym88 Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 Well if it doesn't happen, I have no choice but to move on. But it is already day 4 and I am already doing better than day 1 so it's still working even though I hope to still get him back. If not, then oh well.
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Well if it doesn't happen, I have no choice but to move on. But it is already day 4 and I am already doing better than day 1 so it's still working even though I hope to still get him back. If not, then oh well. If you want him back, then sit him down and have a real heart to heart talk. He will either respond or he won't. If he's not interested, then start NC and move on, with the expectation and 100% realization that you are done. Anything else is just games and will lead to suffering and pain for one or both of you.
Author Charym88 Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 If you want him back, then sit him down and have a real heart to heart talk. He will either respond or he won't. If he's not interested, then start NC and move on, with the expectation and 100% realization that you are done. Anything else is just games and will lead to suffering and pain for one or both of you. I believe that it is too soon to start a heart to heart talk with him. It has only been 4 days and he has not contacted me AT ALL. I have the feeling he may want to work it out with his child's mother for the child's sake. SO she may be forcing him to end all contact with me.
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 IMO, 2 people who are in a mature, loving, committed relationship don't take breaks, and have open communication. If he was serious about you and your RS, he would want to talk. Period!! Maybe time to let this one go and start NC...
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