bdizzle Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 (edited) So up until tuesday, it had been a solid 2 months of no contact from me. Last I heard from her was back in July when she sent me a message regarding how she couldn't change her car insurance because of an incident that she took the blame for me for. Its buried here somewhere if you care to read it. Anyway, she called me on tuesday night leaving a voicemail saying "“Hey its me…um…i was calling to let you know how I’m doing and to see how your doing ask you about something. Understand if you don’t want to call me back but if you do, you know my number, number, thanks.” I figured enough time had passed for me so why not be civil to her...sent her a text "Got your vm, called you back. You guys doin ok?" Her response: Yes. Thank you. How are you doing? Hope everything worked out at the anthem house for you. Hate to ask you for anything but I’m needing to find a home for Lucy and was wondering if your mom might want her. I know you guys will take impeccable care of her and I just can’t seem to find anyone else reliable that I know will love her like I do. We continue having a light conversation about her new job, her kids, me, yadda yadda. Ends with her saying: Yup oh well, I will make sure they are ok. Well I hope your knee gets better and surgery goes well. Let me know if you know anyone that would want Lucy or if your mom does. I’m going to bed I have to be up early. Me: Know you will, always have been a phenominal mother to them. They’re lucky to have you. I’ll ask around. Sleep well. (no intention of asking around about her dog...I feel bad that she has to give her up, and feel bad for the dog not knowing where she'll end up, but still...not putting myself or anyone I know in that situation) After this conversation, felt fine. Indifferent if you will. Wasnt upset for breaking contact, nor upset/flustered hearing from her. Fast forward to today. She sends me a text "Do you mind if I continue to use your address for the kids school. What is it? You don't have to sign anything. Just won't change it." My response: "I thought that was one of the reasons you moved to parents, so they could help with school/kids. I really wish I could help, but I'm just not comfortable with it. I'm sorry." Her: Ok. Ill process a variance. You may get some mail until that is processed. End of story. Thoughts? Granted I shouldn't have responded on tuesday but again, figured whats the harm. Shes got her relationship, I'm slowly working on a new one. No reason to not at least be friendly to somewhat of a stranger. Whats with all the communication suddenly? I realize its only because she wants something, but still...why me? Plenty of friends/lover/whatever, why not hit them up. Why bring me back in to the fray even if only for a few texts? Edited August 8, 2013 by bdizzle
GB25 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Seemed pretty standard to me... There was no mushy gushy talk and she pretty much seemed all business Nothing to analyze..she was asking you for favors..
Author bdizzle Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 Seemed pretty standard to me... There was no mushy gushy talk and she pretty much seemed all business Nothing to analyze..she was asking you for favors.. Ya, totally get that. I guess I'm just questioning why? She left me and wanted nothing to do with me...jumped in her new relationship and never looked back. Why come to me for favors?
Misfortune Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Ya, totally get that. I guess I'm just questioning why? She left me and wanted nothing to do with me...jumped in her new relationship and never looked back. Why come to me for favors? She probably thought that you were easier to get to do those things for her compared to the others in her life. Seems like she just wanted to use you. I would ignore her.
Zahara Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Ya, totally get that. I guess I'm just questioning why? She left me and wanted nothing to do with me...jumped in her new relationship and never looked back. Why come to me for favors? Maybe she knew that it would be easier to get something out of you, thinking that because you were emotional about her, you'd probably bend backwards a little for her.
Virgil876 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Yes, as others pointed out, looks like she's just trying to use you, don't let her do that.
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