Fridaymorning Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Me and my ex were together for 3 years. He was my first love, my first everything. We'd been through a lot together and i really thought he was going to be the one. Things started to get rocky, we were arguing a lot of the time and it was upsetting to see our relationship failing. At first he told me he wanted a break, and then to meet up at the end of it when he'd made his decision on whether he wanted to move on. It felt like he had me wrapped around his little finger, and about a week in to the break he text me saying he wanted us to break up completely. Naturally i was distraught. We arranged a date to meet up so we could exchange belongings, and in that meeting we ended up talking about our relationship, feelings and what went wrong etc. I was really upset at this point and started crying. He ended up getting really angry with me over this and said some very horrible things. He also told me there was no chance of us ever getting back together, and that he was glad he didnt have to put up with me anymore. It all got a bit too much and i left him crying my eyes out not wanting to hear anymore of his insults. That night he text me apologizing about the way he acted and the things he said, but stood his ground in his decision to break up. I was very very upset but accepted it nevertheless. A couple of days later he saw me returning from camping with a group of my friends. Within the group was a guy who my ex hates. He told me that seeing me with him made him upset and that he still wanted to keep in contact with me- texting, he also told me that he still had feelings for me. I agreed to keep in contact but suspected it wouldnt work out because he has a tendency to ignore me. I was right. This resulted in an argument and i told him i wanted no further contact. Later that week i'd found out that he kissed another girl at a party and even though we're not together it hurt me deeply. It felt like a physical blow. I confronted him about it and he told me he was drunk etc and that it wasn't meant to happen. I can't help feeling sad hurt and angry over it. I really didnt think he had it in him to mess me around and then disrespect my feelings like that when he knew that im trying to get over him, he told me he wouldnt do anything to make it harder for me. After arguing about it he told me he still had feelings for me but the next day told me he hated me, was 100% over me and never wanted to speak or see me again. He blocked me on every social networking site and blocked my number. So ive had no choice but to resort to nc once again. Hes left me feeling confused, I still do love him with all my heart and I hope one day he will want me back and start treating me with respect. We're attending the same school as each other in september and im worried seeing him so often is going to resort in more heartbreak for me. I want him in my life and i hope that sometime he'll realize he misses me and tries to get back in contact. Its been around a month now since the break. We also had another break up in around 2011/2012 for four months. After getting back together we were the happiest we'd ever been. I cant help thinking that it just got too intense for him and he wants space, and in time he'll come back Should i wait to see what happens in the time we see each other in school? Or should i be trying to move on now? is there hope for us?
Philosoraptor Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 You can't be upset with something he did after the relationship had ended. He owed you nothing and clearly doesn't feel like he owes you anything anyway. There is often a second "honeymoon" period when you decide to try again, but if the issues from the past aren't fixed it is often a brief period as you have seen. You are obviously hung up on someone who is emotionally immature. Yes, you should be working on moving on and finding someone who respects you. 1
Waynester Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Breaking up is hard enough as it is without added nastiness & spite! I know this feels just awful but really.. this could be the beginning of something better..better for you. There is someone out there who would love you & respect you.. who may be looking for you..right now!! Time to think of number 1. You could be so much happier.. if you just give it a try. Time for tears & spite to end.. you deserve better.. & better could be a lot closer than you think! Good luck. 2
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