Chopsueye Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 (edited) TLDR: My girlfriend of 11 months leaves me for her ex boyfriend that broke up with her. Hello, first time posting. My 18-year-old friend Rebecca was dating a guy she considered to be her brother from another mother, David. It was always a "What if" scenario in her mind, and one day he asked her out. He was a decent enough boyfriend for the first three months, and then he had to leave for college over the summer for five weeks. David seldom contacted her during that time and when we returned, he was very distant. After a week, he broke up with Rebecca because he lost all romantic interest in her. I had feelings for Rebecca throughout the four months they dated, and she had feelings for me as well. However, being the kickass gentleman I am, I never made a move on her for her and David's sake, despite how painful it was to see the two of them together. When they broke up, I waited a few weeks for her to recover before telling her how I felt about her. She accepted my feelings and we began dating, and it was the best relationship I'd ever had! David was a good friend of mine. After about three months of little to no contact with Rebecca, he asks to be her friend again. Meanwhile, Rebecca and I are having the time of our lives making each other happy . As Rebecca and David grew closer as friends, they began re-kindling the brother and sister relationship they had before their dating relationship. I asked Rebecca to not get so close to David, and she promised me I had nothing to worry about because she would never leave me for him. In addition, David promised me that he would never make a move on her and his feelings for her were purely platonic. After eleven months of blissful dating, Rebecca's ex boyfriend decides to tell her that it was his biggest mistake ever breaking up with her and confesses that he still has feelings for her. Rebecca still has feelings for him, but she loves me too. She told me this exact scenario. I knew she still had some feelings for her, so she must have been a little confused. We talked about how she felt for him, and she promised she wouldn't leave me for him. At this point, I'm pissed with David for being a scumbag telling his feelings to her while we are still in a committed relationship. The next two weeks, Rebecca grew very distant from me, and I could tell she was planning to leave me for David. I never brought the issue to her attention, because the both of them promised I had nothing to worry about and I trusted both of them. For summer vacation, I went away to Florida for about a week. It was a wonderful vacation, but I never stopped thinking about Rebecca. I bought her a little stuffed Captain America doll at Universal Studios. When I return, I find out that she and David were cheating on me at a surprise party she threw for David. It wasn't anything major, but Rebecca is a good girl and I would never have believed her to do anything so heartbreaking. She made out with him and slept in the same bed. When I returned home, she too was gone for a week of vacation in California. I find out from my friends at the surprise party that she was too damn cuddly with David and that she was planning on leaving me for him. After four agonizing days of waiting for her to return, she asks me over to her house and breaks up with me. She apologizes for treating me so bad and tells me I never did anything wrong, but she wants to break up. I was the best boyfriend and gentleman a man can possibly be. I took her out on dates all the time, I was always romantic, I never forced her to do anything in the bedroom she didn't feel comfortable with (while simultaneously pleasing her several times), and I made her feel like she was the only girl for me. It has been three days since we broke up. I hate David's guts with all my heart, but I can't bring myself to hate Rebecca. I just want her to realize the huge mistake she's making by going back with him. All of our friends, as well as her family, believe that David is in the wrong and Rebecca is making the mistake of her life. I only wish she would see that as well. Thus far I've taken to the No Contact rule, and I'm doing okay. Edited August 8, 2013 by Chopsueye
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