Charym88 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 (edited) When I first met him, we met on Facebook. He lived 1600 miles way from me and we clicked really fast. A few days after we met, he confessed to me he had a girlfriend then a few days after, I found out she was due to have a baby for him. AT that point, I was ready to give up on him, but my attachment I had grown for him could not leave, so I suggested we become friends only. He kept discussing with me how unhappy he was with her and he talked to me via online everyday. He was very desperate to see me so he paid for a flight to come see me before the birth of his child. I let him, because I really longed for him in my heart even though I knew it was wrong. The first time he visited me for a week, then went back home. At this point, the pregnant GF knew about me and he made it very clear to her that he was in love with me and would be moving with me soon. Well, fast forward... He stayed with me for a month and a half. The whole time we were together, his ex-GF would not leave us alone. She would contact me and him all day, everyday. It was to the point she was causing us arguments and he couldn't take the pressure anymore from me "in his words." He was doing good here with me, he was in school and everything. Then, he just recently up and left during our past argument and returned home. I am so hurt and devastated. AT first, nothing would return him home. Not his family, not his ex, nobody. I just wish he would realize that his ex was the cause of everything. SHe will not allow him to move on. SO, I decided to do the NC rule until they break up. I know he went back to her because of me kept accusing him to do so. I know in my heart he doesn't love her, because he wouldn't have done what he did as far as leaving her twice to be with me. I wonder if he thinks of me sometimes. The last time I talked to him was when I text him about the house keys he had that I couldn't find. He claimed that I played with his emotions, then I tried to justify my love for him and he doesn't believe me then he just completely stop contacting me. It has been 4 days now. I am also wondering if he can even get back in contact with me if he wanted to, because I blocked him off of Facebook and both of my emails. I believe he deleted my number again after we contacted out of anger, because he is known to do that. I don't even think he is able to contact me, but I am scared to take him off of block on Facebook, because once he realizes I did, he may block me on his end. Edited August 8, 2013 by Charym88
Philosoraptor Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 You got involved with a man who had a girlfriend who was pregnant. He freaked out and ran from his pregnant girlfriend and rebounded. Sadly for you, you got emotionally invested in someone who is in no way emotionally available. You'd be best to stay out of this as he's already shown he's a cheater, emotionally unavailable, and he has baby mamma drama that will continue to put stress on any kind of realtionship you have with this man. 2
Author Charym88 Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 Nobody is perfect and he cheated on her and not me. I'm sorry, it sounds stupid, I am not handing him over to her just like that. She is more of a rebound than I ever was because he never talked to her often until the day he got mad at me and refuged back to her. He has totally confessed he doesn't love her. He is just pressured by family and friends to be with her because of their newborn. I believe we just moved too soon. Once he gets his head clear and this "fake-love" relationship passes over. I have faith he will be back. He cheated on her because he isn't and wasn't happy. I don't believe he is a consistent cheater. He was miserable with her for 4 years before he tried to escape the relationship by cheating with me.
LibbyListens Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 She is more of a rebound than I ever was because he never talked to her often until the day he got mad at me and refuged back to her. He sounds like a prize. 1
TaraMaiden Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 "He was miserable for 4 years...." What an idiot. She hasn't been pregnant for 4 years, has she? So if he was so 'miserable' why didn't he leave before? And then, while 'miserable' he then made her pregnant? That's one helluva kind of 'miserable'! There's a clever boy!! He's well and truly messed up now, hasn't he? His opinion (and yours for that matter) of the other woman, are completely irrelevant. What is relevant is that he is tied to her for a really good long while now, because she's the MOTHER - OF - HIS - CHILD. He sounds spineless. Run from this guy. His life will always be just one complication after another. 2
Zahara Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Agree with Tara. He was with her for 4 years and miserable enough to have a baby with her? That is what miserable people in miserable relationships do, they make babies so that they can ball and chain themselves to that misery No prize, this one. 1
emi Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 he show himself as unresponsible partner, you got this one wrong. Take the lesson from his ex, or else in the future u will end up like her, maybe worst Dont ignore signs, they are woman's best friend
hinatticus Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 What kind of dead beat leaves their newborn. This guy is a loser. I'm sorry, but a man should never walk away from his child. Period. 1
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