chaos72 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Hello all, EXTREMELY long story short. I have been in a relationship with this woman for 6 years. We dated initally for about 6 months, we broke up. I did everything I could to get back with her, called, text, guilt trips everything you can imagine someone who is obsessed would do and it worked. Dated again and broke up...did the same exact thing. Yet again broke up...same thing, got back together.....HAD A KID. Now this time we lasted 2 years with the child. Everything calmed way down. Eventually she told me she was unhappy, we argue too much. Same crap, called her constantly blah blah Ill be better and it worked yet again for about 2 weeks. Now we have broken up again. This time though it is different. After two days of approximately 60-100 texts I finally realized I have gone and been an absolute wack job. I am obsessed over this woman and how did I not realize it, how did I let it consume me like this. After realizing this I have completely stopped trying to contact her. I don't even know what to think anymore other then what was I thinking. How did I let myself do this to her...TO MYSELF. Now I have a child with her. What should I do? She is not willing to do 50/50. She is willing to let me have 50% legal but not placement. She wants me to keep going over there to pick up my son and drop him off...every day. Knowing now that I am obsessed with her will this not just make it worse? Will it not just make us get back together yet again? Help!
keepontruckin Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 You've gotta stay cool, and I know you're not cool from your post... You are going to have to find another "space" in your mind that will deal with this... How it ends depends on the both of yous...
robaday Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 I went through this a number of years ago and I can tell you this isnt about her at all, this is about you and what she represents in your mind. Somewhere, deep in your past (possibly as a baby) you had someone who cared for you and for whatever reasons abandoned you whether through death, running away or your parents divorced something that caused childhood trauma This is about your self esteem which is at an all time low. Its about external validation and needing external things to build up yourself and make you feel worthwhile. You need to do tremendous work on yourself to get through this and to build yourself from scratch. There is no easy way. But get reading. Get working out. Get to counselling. Cut back on booze and drugs and work out why it is you dont love yourself as you are. Then work out how you can love yourself. Fxxxk her, shes gone
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